Avoiding Resolution to Win the Conflict | Richard Rossiter | 1 Samuel 15

In this practical and challenging session from Marriage Weekender 2026, Pastor Richard Rossiter of Cornerstone Baptist Church explores the common pitfalls in conflict resolution through the lens of King Saul's failures in 1 Samuel 15. Conflict is an inevitable part of marriage, but the goal for a Christian couple is not to "win" as enemies, but to seek resolution as allies. Pastor Rossiter identifies the various ways we evade true resolution—through excuses, spiritualizing our failures, or focusing on public perception—and calls husbands and wives to embrace the humility and ownership required to build a stronger, Christ-centered relationship.Chapters:0:00:00 - Introduction to Conflict Resolution0:01:21 - The Goal: Allies vs Enemies0:03:13 - Conflict as a Source of Strength0:05:41 - The Value of Alternative Opinions0:07:01 - Mistake One: Avoiding Conflict Entirely0:10:35 - All Sin Conflicts are with God0:12:05 - Tactic One: The Assumption of Correctness0:14:50 - Tactic Two: Excusing Failure Circumstantially0:16:34 - Tactic Three: Spiritualizing Failure0:18:18 - Tactic Four: Generalizing Successes0:21:28 - Tactic Five: The Caveat Confession0:23:13 - Tactic Six: Resolution Without Repentance0:25:39 - Tactic Seven: Valuing Public Perception Over Private Truth0:27:14 - The Legacy of Unresolved Conflict0:29:43 - Choosing the Heart of David Over SaulIf you were challenged by this message, we invite you to listen to more biblical teaching at canyonridgebaptist.com. If you are in the San Diego area, we would love to have you join us for a service at Canyon Ridge Baptist Church. Our Sunday services are held at 8:30 AM, 10:30 AM, and 5:00 PM.Please share this video with your friends and encourage them to learn more at:www.canyonridgebaptist.comDid you accept Christ as your Savior today? Do you have questions about the Bible, life, death? Just need to talk to someone? Here's how to get a hold of us:Call the office at 858-627-9394Shoot us an email at [email protected] us a line on our website, canyonridgebaptist.comLeave us a note on our Facebook page, Twitter, or Instagram.Want to obey the Lord in giving today? You can do that on our website:https://www.canyonridgebaptist.com/give