Babette in Retrospect and FAQ I

Was Babette's relationship with the Judge and Billie a polyamorous triad? Did Babette commit suicide? Wouldn't Babette's story be better told by someone less cis? Babette's house sounds super creepy, was it haunted? You share a lot of personal bodily details about Babette. Isn't that disrespectful? Was Babette aware the FBI surveilled her? What was Babette's relationship with the LGBTQ+ community? Did Babette speak German? Before the book came out, how was Babette viewed by the local trans community?