Bad Patterns in Relationships Part 2 | Episode 155

How to break the cycleSeek God’s input on the matter How does He feel about what you’ve done?How does He feel for the other person?Listen!!Understand where the hurts go and be mindful/loving with that knowledgeAvoid directing anger/fear AT the other personTry not to have your guilt/self condemnation cloud the truthWhat are their hurts, what needs were not met or taken from them?How do you like that need to be met?How can you meet their need while your need(s) are also met?Realize that meeting another’s needs is loving themBe aware of your and their emotional needs (as compared to the hurts)?Commit to being OHVBe very careful if THIS has been a problemIf both people are not committed to this, many future hurts will be createdHeal all hurtsOutside - Heal old woundsAttach comfort one on oneHave others comfort if neededSeek outside counsel in navigating this if neccesaryInside - Confess, Understand, ForgiveSeek WISE counselAn outside perspective is valuableDo not seek an echo chamberDo not simply vent/gossip/disrespectWhat’s next?Replace bad patterns with goodRegular check-ins in regards to needs and hurtsSpending time building the relationship outside of needs and conflictAllow for grace within the relationship Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe