Be a Better Therapist: Signs You're Moving Too Fast (Or Too Slow) | LHSFT Classic

Sometimes, being a better therapist has less to do with learning a new intervention and more to do with paying attention to the pace of the work. Are you moving too fast with clients, or not moving things forward enough? I’m revisiting this episode because therapy pacing is one of the most common and overlooked reasons clients get stuck, lose momentum, or start to wonder whether therapy is really helping. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists, I’m talking about how to recognize when you may be pushing clients too hard, how your own reactions can quietly influence the pace of therapy, and what it looks like when the work slows down so much that it starts to lose traction. We’ll also talk about client readiness, the difference between insight and action, and how to find a pace that feels both thoughtful and productive. This conversation is a reminder that being a better therapist is not about doing more. It’s about learning when to challenge, when to pause, and how to stay attuned to what each client actually needs from you. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How to be a better therapist through therapy pacing 05:10 Moving too fast in therapy 11:40 When slower therapy is the right call 18:35 Moving too slow in therapy 23:10 Finding the right pace with clients If you’ve been feeling isolated in your work, second-guessing yourself with clients, or wanting more support as you grow, I want you to know you’re not alone. One of the primary ways I support therapists beyond this podcast is through The Growth Collective for Therapists, a professional home I created for clinicians who want real consultation, meaningful connection, and support building a practice that feels sustainable and life-giving. The Growth Collective brings together licensed therapists who are ready to receive the same level of care they give every day through monthly consultation, clinical supervision, CEU trainings, and practical guidance for building a stable, fulfilling private practice. If you’ve been missing community, feeling stretched thin, or wanting a place to keep growing, this space was created with you in mind. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self