Be a good person, but not a nice person

I am a recovering people pleaser. I started my journey about 3 years ago. I'm a leader, and I always wanted people to feel good and be happy. I also struggled with saying no. When God brought me to Clemson to be a strength and conditioning coach. One of the things he revealed to me right away was I needed to run towards confrontation. I needed to set boundaries and be ok with knowing that everyone is not going to like me and that's ok. The bible talks about if we aim to please human beings, then we lose sight of pleasing God and giving him the praise.