Be connected in your relationship, with Dr Tracy Dalgleish

In this week's conversation I talk to Dr. Tracy Dalgleish about how our attachment styles affect our relationship dynamics, and how we can change the patterns we fall into with our partner. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a Clinical Psychologist and couples therapist who helps individuals and couples navigate the challenges we all face in our relationships and within ourselves to create a more meaningful life through therapy, wellness seminars, and her work outside of the therapy room. For over 15 years, Dr. Dalgleish has provided direct clinical services as well as researching, writing, and speaking about relationships. She provides psychological assessments, diagnosis, and individual and couple therapy for a variety of difficulties, including depression, anxiety, postpartum difficulties, stress and burnout, and relationship difficulties.  We talk about: 5:59 Interdependence 9:26 The 4 S's of social attachment - safety, security, seen and soothed 13:05 Turn taking in relationships 15:14 Incompatibility in attachment styles 19:50 Secure attachment 20:16 Anxious attachment 20:40 Avoidant attachment 21:39 Fearful or disorganised attachment 25:58 Being on the same team, when you're differently 'flammable' 29:40 Common cycles couples all into and how to break them 32:54 Toxic masculinity and emotional expression 36:48 Perfectionism and unrealistic expectations 39:52 Pervasive myths about relationships 41:00 When to go your separate ways 46:17 Tolerating relationship calibrations 49:03 How Dr Tracy pauses and plays 52:25 Dr Tracy's takeaway for you   Pre-order my book at Amazon here.   Instagram:  @Dr.TracyD Facebook & Twitter: @DrTracyD Website: https://www.drtracyd.com Podcast: I’m Not Your Shrink https://drtracyd.com/podcast   Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk Instagram: @the_thomas_connection Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay    This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media