Be Selfish to recieve Love

We all go through difficulties in life and these past few months have been trying! A friend asked on IG the other day have you experienced any recent setbacks and how did you deal?  Sharing how I manifested my new place after a plan fell thru.   Friends... loving and leaving.  Selfishness- Do we have the wrong idea? It's time to flip the script, do unto self and you would do unto others.  Take care of self to help others!