Be Solid in 10: Are You Solving Problems Your Child Needs to Solve?

What if helping your child too much is actually making you more necessary? As parents, we're good at solving problems. We remember, remind, organize, fix, step in, and smooth things over—usually because we love our kids and genuinely want to help. But there's a catch: We want capable kids, and capability develops through practice. If we're always doing the remembering, thinking, fixing, and solving, who is actually getting the practice? In this Be Solid in 10, Bridget explores the difference between supporting our kids and accidentally taking over the work they need to learn to do themselves. You'll learn one simple three-step skill: PAUSE → HAND IT BACK → SUPPORT PAUSE: Ask yourself, “Is this mine to solve—or theirs to practice?” HAND IT BACK: Instead of immediately giving the answer, ask, “What do you think you could do?” SUPPORT: Stay available without taking over by asking, “What do you need from me?” Because eventually, our kids turn 18...and then 25...and eventually 40. The goal isn't to raise kids who never need us. It's to raise increasingly capable people who know how to think, choose, solve problems, recover, and ask for help appropriately—while knowing we're still firmly in their corner. Work yourself out of the job. Not out of the relationship. 🎧 About Be Solid in 10: Short, practical conversations that take one real family challenge and give you one useful perspective and one skill you can actually use. Stay grounded. Keep growing. Be SOLID.