“Be Yourself” Is Terrible Advice
from Shrink For The Shy Guy Hosted by Dr. Aziz Gazipura, Psychologist and Author
Right before a date, an interview, or a family gathering, someone tells you to just be yourself. Has that ever actually helped? For most of the people Dr. Aziz works with, it's done the opposite. In this episode, Dr. Aziz explains why be yourself and be authentic fail as guidance, even though they're pointing at something real. The map they hand you is no map at all, so most people end up constructing an idealized fantasy version of themselves to perform. That's a different kind of cage. He walks through a much more useful framework: identify what you value and live it today, not someday. This episode covers: Why just be yourself is well-meaning but useless advice The fantasy-self trap: how the absence of a real map produces a different kind of cage How to actually find your values, even if you draw a blank when someone asks you The end-of-day test that tells you whether you were more yourself today than yesterday Discover your approval type. Take the 2-minute quiz at https://www.draziz.com Watch episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrAzizGazipura Work with Dr. Aziz directly: The Unstoppable Confidence Mastermind is a year-long program for people ready to unwire this pattern at the nervous system level. Application at https://www.socialconfidencecenter.com/ucmv3 Connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drazizconfidencecoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drazizgazipura
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