Before Behavior Comes Connection: The Trust First Approach

What if the key to changing children's behavior isn't control at all? In this episode of Early Childhood Chapters, host Emily Garman sits down with Dr. Deborah Bergeron and Rhonda Conn-Parent, coauthors of Trust First, to explore a powerful shift in how educators approach behavior. Instead of focusing on managing or correcting children, this conversation reframes behavior as communication—and an opportunity for learning. Deborah and Rhonda share how leading with trust can transform classroom culture, reduce stress for educators, and create environments where children truly thrive. From redefining "challenging behaviors" to introducing the KIDS framework (Kindness, Independence, Delight, Success), this episode offers practical, actionable strategies educators can start using right away. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why behavior should be seen as something that challenges us, not something wrong with the child How trust serves as the foundation for learning and brain development The KIDS framework and how it helps decode behavior Why respect must be modeled, not demanded How small mindset shifts can dramatically change classroom dynamics What "double happiness" means for both children and teachers The "pit stop" strategy (pause, inhale, think) and how it supports regulation Key Takeaway: When educators shift from control to connection, behavior becomes information—and every moment becomes an opportunity to teach, learn, and build trust. Learn More: Trust First: Turn Behaviors that Challenge Us into Opportunities to Learn by Dr. Deborah Bergeron and Rhonda Conn-Parent is available now from Gryphon House.