Behind Closed Tabs: What Porn Reveals (and Doesn’t) in Relationships

Porn isn’t always just a solo activity—it can carry a lot of weight in relationships. In this episode, we dive into the tricky, often unspoken space where porn and partnership intersect. What does it mean if your partner watches porn? When does it cross a boundary? And why does it feel so personal when it might not be?We talk about the emotional complexity behind discovering a partner’s porn use, the assumptions made about what it means, and how those assumptions are shaped by culture, shame, and our own sexual self-understanding. We talk about consent, communication, and why early, honest conversations about porn are important. Whether you’re struggling to bring it up, feeling judged for what you watch, or just trying to understand how porn fits into your relationship, this episode offers a thoughtful and nonjudgmental starting point.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question