Better open relationship rules (and 3 tools to use instead)

Do you have rules for your open relationship or are you looking to set some? If so, you probably want open relationship rules to protect your relationship, keep yourselves safe, and to avoid any uncomfortable feelings like jealousy or insecurity. Makes sense!A lot of couples in open relationships reach for a rulebook — no sleepovers, no feelings, always get permission first. And there's a reason: rules feel like a promise that jealousy and insecurity won't happen.But here's what I see time and again: rules work... until they stop working. Whether you're thinking about how to setup rules in your open relationship or have some rules that stopped working, this episode is for you.I'm pulling back the curtain on what I've learned from working with nearly 100 couples, triads, and quads on what does work so that you can structure your relationship in a way that is safe, secure, and still sexy.In this episode, you'll learn.why couples set rules for their open relationship in the first place. Some examples of common, but ultimately unhelpful rules for you to avoid. Some examples of starter rules that you can use as you begin to open your relationshipHow to craft your own relationship rules—what works and what doesn't3 tools to take your rules to the next level. (I've got something else that you can try instead or in addition.)Mentioned in the episode:How to set personal boundariesEnrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)