Beyond Good Intentions: How White Men Can Support Black Men

Send us Fan MailTim sits down with Martin Henson—activist and founder of BMen Foundation—for an honest conversation about moving from good intentions to genuine support.Full Show Notes: https://americanmasculinity.com/14-black-men-allyshipBook List: https://bookshop.org/lists/amp-14-book-listHow to Walk Into Spaces that Don't Belong to You Without Shutting Down or Taking Over: https://americanmasculinity.gumroad.com/l/xvcnjMore of Martin's work: https://linktr.ee/martinhspeaksWhat you’ll learn in this episode:Chapters:00:00 The Allyship Conversation That Makes White Men Uncomfortable05:10 When Fear, Guilt, and Ego Get in the Way13:05 Performative Allyship vs Real Connection21:45 Stop Trying to Fix Black Men, Start Actually Listening31:20 The Cost of Infantilizing Black Men41:00 How to Be a Better Neighbor Without Centering Yourself51:30 You’re Gonna Screw Up — Here’s How to Repair57:00 Closing Reflections: Showing Up, Not PerfectionIf you’re a man who wants to show up authentically for your community, this conversation will give you the tools to move from bystander to genuine ally.👉 Subscribe for more honest conversations about masculinity, mental health, and building stronger connections as men.After ten years in advocacy, I’ve learned you’re going to mess up—what matters is what you do next. This free worksheet isn’t about being perfect; it’s about making your mistakes less harmful, learning from them, and moving forward without getting stuck in shame. Grab it and start turning slip-ups into real growth.Shop local bookshops with bookshop.orgBookshop.org is a non-profit that helps local bookstores deliver books directly to you by mail.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate. Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, growth, and how men can show up better — as partners, leaders, and friends. We focus on grounded tools, not yelling or clichés. If you have questions or want a tool for something you're wrestling with, leave a comment or send a message — your feedback shapes what we build next. Note: While this doesn’t replace therapy, it might help you notice something worth exploring.