Big Mistakes, Sisters, and the Longest Relationship Most of Us Will Ever Have

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is fresh back from Canada after a few days with a close friend who now has a 3-year-old and a 9-month-old, followed by a perfect spring afternoon wandering around Toronto with her cousin. It was the kind of trip that fills you with other people's lives and quietly reminds you how much you value the time that's entirely your own. (Also: Toronto gave her a final send-off she absolutely did not ask for, involving a park, a man in the sun, and the realisation that no city is ever quite as charming as it seems.)The trip flows naturally into her pop culture pick of the week: Big Mistakes, the new Netflix show from Dan Levy and Rachel Sennott that she has not been able to stop watching. What she loves most isn't the premise, a stolen necklace that spirals into criminal chaos, but the sibling relationship at the heart of it. The bickering through impossible situations, the younger sister desperate to be seen, the older brother without the capacity to give it. It's one of the most honest portrayals of sibling dynamics she's seen on screen, and it opens the door to this episode's main conversation.Because the real topic is siblings, specifically, Saskia's relationship with her younger sister Lily. Seven years younger, the cooler version of her, and the person she can't stop laughing with. Saskia shares what she's learned: the raw, unfiltered version of yourself that only surfaces with a sibling, the fights with no rules of warfare, the childhood triggers both of them are still untangling in therapy, and what it actually means to choose someone who was never supposed to be optional.Your sibling might be the longest relationship you'll ever have. Whether you tend to it is up to you.