“BLACK RELATIONSHIPS”

Hello. Hey, how are you? I can't complain too much about this though. I'm good.

I'm good. Okay. So, you know, tonight I want to talk about relationships, but first, I want to talk about a statement that the single technique. I think we kind of talk about social media just a little bit, but I really want to dive into it now.

The single technique may, you know, some questionable statements, you know, the many questions in sexuality. As a whole, he said, man, I'm not kidding, he's not gay. Yes, he is. Yes, he is.

Because I'm not because I think it is this. You can't be not be homosexual, but you do a homosexual ex. I don't know who to talk to or if he's been curious as damn self, but that was just definitely not to move. What's your opinion on this?

Okay. So I literally watched the whole interview because I do two themselves. I can't and I think that the information was taken out of context. The conversation.

Okay. The conversation was how people become labeled just because they do something once. What I do think is he should have used another, maybe another analogy or something different, but he was like basically saying if I lie one time, it doesn't make me a liar. If I cheat one time, it doesn't make me a cheater.

So then Angela proceeded to state. So what you're saying is that we're gay men, you're for ratio one time, you don't like it. They don't make him gay. He's like, no, I don't think that makes him gay.

He don't like it. So I feel like it was taken out of context. He didn't bring up the given relationship. She did as a joke.

So what he was saying, like, if I lie one time, it doesn't make me a liar. If I cheat one time, it doesn't make me a cheater. And she said, wait, what you saying? That if somebody give a male gives another male relationship and he doesn't like it, that means he's not gay.

He's like, no, it doesn't make him gay. He didn't like the way he does. He's not gay. And I think people just ran off with that last statement.

I mean, it's even though he was making reference to homosexuality when it was something that really came out of her. Okay. So but the thing is, though, if you're still one time, you're a thief. Okay.

So you disagree with the context? What would you say? Even with the context, you got to even with the context, even though you try to break it down, it was the context and, you know, even with Angela, you bringing it out. Once you crossed that line, you got to stay down because you just made a couch.

And then, but then he doubled back and said, they said this too. He said, well, if he does it again, then that, then I mean, he gay too, because, you know, maybe try to try that once. Well, you try that once, but then you become a repeat offender. Right.

What I think it was a bad, it wasn't a good analogy to you. But what I do think it was taking that context again. But I feel like he shouldn't even point with, you know, allow her to even disrespect him with X in him. You know, I feel like that he was trying to defend like, listen, I cheated once.

My wife cheated once. That doesn't make a cheater and he would prove his point that he was trying to go full forth. But in my know, if you're something that I mean, you're gay. Only because he wanted everybody to believe that he's not a cheater and he just that was just the worst way to prove your point.

Yeah, but not everybody thinks he's gay. So what's your point? Really? I don't believe he's gay.

Okay. All right. Thank God. I'm going to thank you.

All right. Okay. But again, to the media, the show though, you know, we got that out the way. But I want to talk about relationships, you know, one of the reasons two two men's on Facebook that I think are very popular.

I just on social media in general and they read as follows. The first one is the reason that I was on the black women deserve to be loved without suffering first. Okay. And another one is another one that I see that's popular a lot is black men are not a little properly until they get some money.

Now I want to say this. I want to I agree with both posts. I agree that black women shouldn't suffer, you know, they deserve to be loved and they deserve to be loved properly without suffering. But I also do believe that black men are not properly loved until they do get some money.

Now I have to ask you a question. I want to ask you a question. And you know, very limited limited with things that happen with women because I can't see them through y'all that I'm overly happy. So I have to form on a pin based on my experiences.

But now black women's suffering relationships just based on my experience. And I think that some of that are some of that is self-inflicted ones by the type of person that they choose. Yes, sometimes that definitely be. I think the statement all these roles from a statement that well, I mean that Gucci name both it.

About his wife like basically, you know, everybody wants the end results of the Gucci man is now, but before when he was seven drugs, she didn't, you know, driving. He went on that then nobody was arrived from and I cleaned up and he did this and ended all that. And it's like, oh, everybody want to Gucci man, Keisha relationship with nobody and see all the things she had to go through first before she got the man that she got. Okay, I don't want to go to any of that before he get the man that's supposed to be the one.

But that is luggage. There's two different situations. If it works hard, then that's absolutely fine. But I don't think she should have had to go through all that to be loved properly and she falls under them.

It's a great day to their in love. But everybody's story doesn't work like that. So I don't think that women should just sit around and say, oh, he's going to do better because, you know, this one, her husband went through all this and they're still together and not looking at a beautiful relationship. Everybody can't be speaking.

I'm still learning myself. Everybody cannot speak. So if you feel so in a certain type of situation, I mean, stick around and you're just going to be okay, good boy. But eventually, other things happen too.

You can be able to say, literally, physically, emotionally, all the way, no, this perfect print show that you trying to make him to be. So no, I don't think that women should have to go through all this stuff or anything. Just look at it to be loved properly. No, no, no.

But you know, but I just don't want to just say one other thing is like, I can't because you know this is a black show, but I don't want to say that it just seems like when black women are in the youth and they are at their best. Physicality goes for physical parents and physicality goes. I can't stress this. I really can't stress this enough.

And we think that when black women choose or make they don't choose, I mean, they already up would be moving already, you know, kind of like self-sufficient. Or they want to know their hands in the type of indication that he will become self-sufficient in the future. They pick, you know, this is just a stereotypical thing, but they tend to go for the guy that, you know, kind of, their just hands on record, could be in a large jail, possible busy-papple because they turn around and say, well, black men are trained, but it's not a partner that's just seeking. You know, what do you think about this statement?

I was young. I can say that, you know, I did see that. You know, I only want to do whatever, you know, I'm not going to see me, but I don't say you guys. I'm not a girl, but I'm not a person.

I have all the money. And I only want to be able to do that. And I only want to be able to do that type of stuff. That comes with a whole lot more, I guess, quickly, so I believe that all women do people in the beginning.

Are you still thinking, well, everybody's age or purpose then that's an issue. That's a personal issue that you have with yourself. yourself. But at the young age, I can say you haven't really seen the world for what it really is.

Yeah, yeah, but then you'll turn around and you know, when it passed the prime goal of present, past that physicality, you know, then they turn around and say, Oh, now I'm looking for me. And they know, it's ugly bound and I think I'm doing all these great amazing things. But the thing is, you waste it, you basically waste your youth and your looks on somebody that's not even a builder, you know, and then you expect that you've been used up your space for a man that's really doing something to turn around. You know, kind of wife, you know, it is not logical.

This is a different way. I hope from the age of 16 to then, or you're not going to find me a good woman to go shut it down and make sure I'm okay, make sure I'm clean, like, cooking, you know, they're going to do it the same thing. The thing is, though, the thing is, like, you know, I got to say this and I'm really, I can't stress this enough, especially when I'm playing with me, I can't stress this enough, I know I don't play with him. I can not stress one once in a month.

You cannot either play with me, think that you do the same thing that a black man can. That means that as a black woman, you just can't say, oh, but a black man doing it. So it's going to be, it should be socially acceptable for me to do it too. That's just not how it works.

They're just not it. But yeah, he's going to hold around. So I'm going to go around too. For the most part, for the most part mentally, I'm talking about, like, from a mental standpoint, black men and just men in general don't get penetrated.

We're not supposed to win away. Not supposed to get penetrated. It's what it's like, it's going to be a sexual ache where you become penetrated. That's something mental.

That's something emotional for a woman. Stop it. I'm not promoting, I'm not promoting, I'm just going to go out and just have sex and do whatever they want to do because the men are cheating. I am suggesting that men get a shit together and don't do it with us.

You don't want to do you. You don't want a woman with that type of tag on her, but you're going to allow yourself to do that. So you disrespecting the black woman also by doing it to them. So why I want to be acceptable is frowned upon.

One of the ones doing what is okay for when Amanda, that double standard, you got to go it's not even getting that stick. Listen, it doesn't have to stick because it's this women want men for different reasons. And may want women for different reasons. Okay, what?

Okay, break that down. Because most of us are breaking that right now. We may typically want to talk about women on time of life. We're men really typically want to make the protection provide.

Me and one woman, there's a nurturer and they will be able to take care of the kids in the future. I'm talking about at the most primal level. Women, they look for a seek protection and put on people to provide. Now, if it takes a certain type of you should, I mean, like, we can't go around and just sit around and say, Oh, well, I've been out here home and my wife and I home.

So I guess there's even an outlet to this stuff. The problem is the why and this is why black women are the that and I'm being this is tough love and I just got to say this, they are the first to get divorced and the last to get married is because society has convinced them that they should be doing the same thing that a man does. And for the most part, when you get to age where you hit the wall, men are going one thing. It just not just not.

Look at what society has become. They will want child as either. What are you talking about? When I say that is when I say like women are becoming a new man because y'all have treated us so bad as women for decades.

For decades with this whole thing. You to do this. And I'm supposed to accept it when you come around 2020 is later with 3000 values on you. And I'm supposed to be the only one person and it's okay.

Women are becoming new men. So the whole marriage thing. Y'all, y'all made us not even be encouraged by being married because all men cheat. Thanks.

Listen to what you're saying. What? Y'all made us like that. When women know nobody made you like that.

See, women can't, but they just women can't say that men make it on a certain type of way. They can't say that. How are you making you a certain type of how are we affected the way that you are because you all have disrespected women or sex women or sex women. You say that women are becoming new men.

That's like sexual confusion. No. No. That is because I listen, you can't turn around and say, Oh, well, no, black, the black woman is still the black woman.

You are still black women. You can't say to become a new man, because then you also, oh, well, I'm a masculine and you type shit. And that's never going to get you anywhere, especially if the goal is to find somebody's going to provide a protected. That's the goal.

If you're saying that there's not the goal, then what are we really doing here is black woman and black? That's my skin. That's absolutely the question now. What are we doing?

Just saying it doesn't seem to be the goal anymore. Then what do you think the goal is? That is the question. What is the goal?

Because I don't see women getting excited about getting married or finding Prince Charming anymore. I don't see women getting excited about being in relationships anymore. I don't see women even encouraged about the white dress, the picket fences anymore. And that's all due to black men.

I believe so. And what way? You said that we do respect that you guys for you? Take a decade.

Let's go about going to go about breaking it down. Break it down from me. How have we break it down all the way? Okay.

You want me to go back back in a day. You're my mother says in the middle house. The other girlfriend stayed on the corner. One person gets two houses and I got to be children all in the same black and that was acceptable.

And then you trickle down to his children because he didn't see him here. They do. Women are like they're not accepting that no more. I think that what has happened in around in the generation in generation and generation is just not doing it.

They're not dealing like that no more. So I just I'm thinking of I you know I hang with women all day. Nobody is encouraged about getting married. The people that are married are not even given good advice on being married.

For the women. And other women. For my life. Give me an example.

But I'm not going to do it. I should have made a name. I'm going to give him. Like this.

You know these young men out here are different. You know, enjoy yourself and just focus on yourself. You're doing it all on your own. You don't need nobody.

That's all that advice we hear. Like you don't about yourself. You don't need nobody. Nobody's not going to give you what you need because you you already got what you need.

So what do they need? You know, you say provided for take. We're providing for take. Like no, you would do my provided at this point.

I mean, I don't provide. You know, I understand both eyes of it. I'm not I don't disturb the marriage. I love love and it's best.

You know, it's fine. Somebody that's going to make you happy. I'm off. But I'm not advocating for it either.

But marriage? I mean, I think are you in love? Or do you think that this person is just for you? And if they guess and all these little things, I'm saying, he's like, but I'm not working on saying the best thing in the world.

I do. I do want my friends to get married. But I want to go to the line. I think it's a million people get with all the show at this point.

They back. We back. The connection was better. But you say it was our show.

Getting married was a show. I'm saying most marriages. Most marriages. Okay.

So let me tell you amazing. What do these women that you talk to? What do they want out of a man? Oh, nobody nobody has said anything about money.

Everybody wants to be genuinely loved properly. I don't want somebody to love me. I don't want somebody to care about me. Somebody who worry about my needs and I worry about his needs and somebody to communicate with somebody to share like we have not heard anybody saying about money yet.

Either they chase out of my money and that way is about marriage. Oh, he got money. I want to be him. I want to be him.

He's never like, Oh, I want to get married to him because he got all this good stuff going on. And he's like, he's like, Oh, yeah, I'm going to need him. Okay. I'm messing with him.

But I don't know. We're here like the mayor of the state. So this one brain is up there. And that's another question.

So the worst way this guy right now in the United States as the whole, the number one reason is because of what? What do you think it is? Incidentally. No, finances.

And the number is infidelity. Then finance. Okay, we just go those statistics. Okay.

So but no, they're we talk about so who does that way? Initiator of divorces. Now, what always they women. It's women.

Now the number one, the number one initiative of what's his women and the number reason why is because of money. Then how can we go around saying how can these women go around to? Oh, well, I just want somebody to love me. No, it's more than that.

You want somebody to protect the provide. I mean, like, but nobody said that because they live in the fantasy world and how they think it should look because mainly because they're not paying out that as a whole, we want some TV. It's always, Oh, well, let me just go ahead. You know, he loves me.

But he doesn't do shit. That don't make sense. No one can love you unless you're overly mobile man, I don't think. So you don't think that women love Asian men?

Wait, no. Oh, oh, I feel all that. I don't understand. Well, they find love for me.

They find love. I mean, everybody have their own definition. But I see a lot of women that they that that could be on like, don't we, I'm just saying that I see women date. Ain't shit meant to whatever though, low self-esteem, maybe.

I don't know. I never have probably been love before. Fear of rejection, fear of being alone. You know, I spoke to you about women that don't know how to be alone and they need somebody to just say, Oh, this is the man in my life.

So so control, control, meaning if they call it a quote, love these ain't shit man, then they can. Hey, like you ain't got to play this thing because I'm homo-sexuals. You ain't got to play this thing. You ain't really got to shit together.

So I'm just going to let you know, flop on top of me and all this shit. You know, I'm gonna do it. But at the same time, I'm protecting myself because I know that I got you and you're not gonna really go over because you had somebody to leave me. Because you need that habit?

Why off it? Very much. So, so, so when you're something else, then do you know what I want? I don't think so much.

I can't speak for all black women. But at this point in our life, I genuinely just it I don't have to be married yet. I just genuinely want to find somebody who is front of right. I don't need I know like you say, you know, I'm not an emotional attached person.

If that makes any sense. I do that. I'll be more off the vibe of you than emotions. If that makes it, it makes any sense.

And once a vibe is not there anymore, I just connect. I just want to be genuine all the time. Wait, whether it's good or bad or whatever. And at this point, in my life, I'm just one about somebody that's gonna be able to out of trust that if I can say you're like my ass if you need to, like I just I don't that's the only emotional connection that I would make that would make me know that you really you know, I don't you know, all the kids you can see and all that they don't make you love me.

And they don't make me love you. I'm all about the vibe that actions and just you being genuine with me all the time and being honest because that's all I'm really looking for. Whether it be a friend, or somebody I'm in a relationship with. But I'm not looking for the TV love or the love and bad people or not looking for the very feel.

So, I think it is though, the solution, we kind of like a solution based show. So I can't blame them to stop the suffering. How do you think you're being at this suffering before? You get low value.

I think we need to deal with ourselves first because if you deal with you and understand what your situation is and your issues are first, you will never even allow it to happen. You're not allowed to happen. I mean, younger than you. But at a certain age, you will start to understand yourself, your surroundings and things are going.

Sometimes women are traumatized beforehand when it comes to meaning. I'm not thinking of somebody that they're dating. Something they can have seen in the house with their dad. Something they can have seen with their grandfather.

Something they see with their uncle. Something they see with their friends. Like, I'm not allowed to use. I love my friends today.

But if I had to be trying to be in a real relationship around what I see, I wouldn't take anybody. So, that contacts me. They think that they're crazy. But because I know them and I see certain things, it makes me not want to even date in a serious situation.

Because I see some of the things that I've tried today. What types of those? Sometimes, you know, most of the time it's infidelity. Sometimes I can see, maybe, lies, a lot of yous and a lot of, I'm just, when I have to take you and I'll take you in a world, something you just do that.

One thing for me, you know, it's a lot of things. You know, when they can see stuff like, okay, my daddy and mom is married. But I don't understand how that's five years younger than me. My daddy and mom, we're going to make another baby and she might not be married for four years.

So basically what you're telling me is that, what I'm hearing is, the company that's from law, is that the number one problem in Black Women's Leadership is infidelity. Infidelity? Trust issues. If that is the biggest, it's not always finances.

Like, you know, money doesn't break our relationships. But I feel like you knew you was marrying a bum before you married a bum. You knew that he was the capable of paying bills before you even got married. But women and men are scared to communicate about real issues.

So I think communication leads to the situation with finances. You know, the person you met for you. You know what type of money they make. You know what type of money you make.

I'm in a whole area which I can't afford. You know, if he gets his phone call off every month, you know, he comes to you every month and he don't have the right deal of money. Ain't none of that new. None of that new.

You married him knowing that he was like that before. I'm really from a different era. Okay, see myself. That's not one of my first money, for some light deals.

I just can't see myself. That's my one for sheep. But, okay, so, so let's go back just for a moment when you're talking about coaching and I think his wife's name is Kisha Dior. Okay.

Yeah. Okay, so then later, so you were saying like she was holding it down for a while. He was getting locked up and he was, you know, running the streets. So what the case was.

So do you think that women will be able to be with a man to the dream manifest? It's all I don't be with a man to the dream manifest. I would. But I'm not going to be with you while your dream manifest.

Like you sleep in one six other women. You go. You sometimes drink you on all these drugs. No, no, no, but you know, but I want to do people know that like she's not with all one of his homies.

She did. She did. Clear. Right.

But I'm saying from a fact of me, I think that this situation is beautiful. She left for her. Love her little bit money. She bought back triple the money.

I don't see nothing wrong with that situation. But I think people need to talk bait. Yeah. Every man ain't gonna be gucci man.

And you stay awake in 1023 years of the benefit. No. And I'm not saying that every man is not going to come up. She dealt with it.

She talked to me for a minute. She wanted him to be situation is beautiful. What I'm saying, it does not happen for everybody right there. It's just a thing that I don't do.

It is like listening. I thought my husband was on the biggest basketball store in the world. But it didn't happen. I didn't marry him because I was on the biggest basketball.

So I married him because I knew that no matter if he didn't make it, I thought we were going to always be okay. So what do you think about? Go for whatever link in the world. It's up to make sure that we were good.

So what do you think about the statement I made when I said black men don't get a lot of problems. They get some money. What do you think about their statement? Now do you think that's the truth or do you think this song is that we hear?

I think it does have some truth to it. Speak on it. I think that that's what that's like that. They go back to me.

So that's how I'm trying to do. You shouldn't expect them. There's someone who let help their man. They put a hundred back down.

They can straight go through this. And that's all the time they're going to go over. But I have not seen the woman who approached entry, never went. It depends on how you approach the situation.

They never went. So just thinking about it. So just again, I'm going to get back on track. Just thinking about it.

So what can black men do to improve their relationship? Because I feel I feel like based on my experience, communication can be a problem. And I think though that black women will get more satisfaction, they will be more hyper-visumant about being feminine. Instead of trying to do exactly what a man does or trying to say, oh, well, I'm the manager of the relationship.

It don't go like that. You can't even respect a man like that. The respect will be low. If somebody allows you to operate a dirty chief and you're supposed to be the man of a relationship, what do you think about that?

Being the king of the home. I don't think I'm in the world. I get treated that they're being treated. And they get you have failed somewhere in the man.

Wait, say that one more time? I think that the man who's allowing a woman to treat him as such. So a real woman does not have a problem being submissive to a real man. But if I have to and help you pay 9% of the bills, you expect me to be like, oh, I'm gonna do everything that you want me to do?

Or, okay, yeah, you're right. No. It doesn't. It's not gonna work like that.

She's gonna be the dominant person in the relationship. I know women that make more money in the home than the male, but yet this male is still the dominant person in the relationship because he's a real man. It's not about the money all the time. It's about how you handle your home, your life, how you respect your woman, and how you want how to be treated and how you want how to treat you.

So what defines a real man and a real woman? First of all, you have to connect on a certain level. Some things don't have to be spoken about. It's all familiar really explain, but if somebody's doing, when I say doing the like things, I mean, like, listen, I'm not in the air that you have to pay all the bills in the house.

What I love a man to pay all the bills in the house, of course, because that's what I'm used to. But a man who makes sure that everything is complete, like you can't even get a man to cut grass anymore. They don't want cut the grass. They don't want to just do many things.

They want to pay somebody to do it. They just, it's just a different type of thing. But a woman is gonna respect a man who's gonna make sure that his house, the thing that's done around the house is done. You know, the home is taken care of.

He's protected. How he's making sure that, you know, the kids are what they're supposed to be, what they need to do, whatever, and she's the same. It's just gonna, um, it just makes sense. It's like something that's not gonna ever, ever have to be spoken about in the house.

If you have to ever speak in your house and say, listen, I'm the man of this sometimes we have to come back and say, well, why she don't think that I'm in the house? What am I doing on? What am I not providing to this relationship? Why have to keep fighting to be the king in my house?

You know, I'm a minister of firecrowd. I said it's something very interesting a couple of times he said that women are needed to make sure that a man is a man. That'd get what he was saying, because he actually broke it down because he was saying that women are going to test you to see that if you're the kind of man that you say that you are. And yeah, when I was with that, and you know, when I'm real test you to see if you're the manager.

For the most part, we got too many, and my pain, we got too many to testify, but if I lose in the area, I think that women are going to be domineering, I want to be domineering, they should take a step back and think about being feminine. I don't think I want to think about that to a certain degree or just a feminism. I don't think that a woman has a problem being feminine in the right situation. So the family, what is real woman here today?

What is real women? Are you okay? No, you're a feminine woman. I mean, a woman is a woman.

She's feminine with all this. When her domine inside has to be released, it's because there's no dominance in the house but her meaning she's becoming the man because the man that she's with is not a roommate. It's really hard to explain like, listen, my grandfather, for kids, my grandmother never ever worked in her life. Okay?

My grandmother is the sassiest, the lippiest person that I know ever in my life, seeing her disrespect, my grandfather, ever. What I'm saying is, I know that my grandmother can be a very aggressive woman and be free. You know, she put it up for that, but I've never seen her do that with my grandfather. So some things don't need to be spoken about because people have to know things they just handle within their relationship.

And some women don't even have an example by. A lot of us have grown up as in single parent homes. So sometimes we might, what we see, if mom has to be the daddy, then sometimes you know who we might, what we see until you find a man and he gonna make you so, he's gonna make, he gonna let you know he's gonna be feminine. It's okay for you to be the queen and not the king of the home.

But if you don't see it, sometimes it's hard for you to navigate on how to be feminine. But that goes back to me saying, being accountable as fathers. If we make people accountable for your actions, we would never have to worry about women feeling a certain type of way when they get into a relationship with men or having these type of feelings. Like I have to be the dominant one because I'm scared that he's gonna leave and I'm scared that he's not supposed to do and I'm not able to make sure that this is how we're going to say if we and him are together.

So we talk about accountability, right? So we talk about accountability, we talk about spasagosia. Now, who is out here? You know, I hear I hear I only in particular, this is a black empowerment show.

And I just want to focus on I want because I want to do black women. But one thing that I see that when we were talking earlier about the sexual activity and just being indiscriminate and your sexual activity as a woman and trying to you know, upstate the man to a certain degree. What I be hearing is like nobody's holding black woman accountable. They don't even hold themselves accountable and say, you know, you're doing that.

That's gonna damage your reputation in the streets. They can just damage yourself mentally on how you see me. And I think to a certain degree that like women's shirts are holding themselves accountable, like, oh, well, this ain't this ain't what it is. This ain't what it's supposed to be because, you know, me, myself, just for an example, I have a lot of women that's friends of mine, right?

And, you know, people wouldn't think that based off of how we're saying, saying how we break ourselves down. But they didn't even come down with it. They really do value my opinion because they know I'm not gonna give them no bullshit. I'm gonna tell them from a man's standpoint or certain things that we're looking for or certain things that we're looking for them to do.

But at the end of the day, always tell them to hold themselves accountable. And don't listen to women, especially women, they have no experience, no experience in a good functional relationship. And I think that's the problem. I think that women are taking advice from women, other women that don't have, that's part of the problem.

But they don't they're not holding each other accountable as far as the activity that's going on. Like, they'll say, oh, yeah, did you deserve to do that? Because it means that they had supposed to go. You suppose that's a real friend that's supposed to be able to tell you.

Listen, chill out on this, chill out on that there may be here come here, come and you know, do this and bring this to the table. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. What's been saying? No, too.

Okay, so you're like, oh, if you do this, you're gonna bring something to the table? No, listen, if you feel like you have to do all that in a situation or relationship that the advice should be missing. You don't have way too much in this relationship. If this person is making you feel unhappy, but you feel like you have to go out and hurt yourself in a process, then maybe you need to step back and feel that person becomes the man that you want to be or you need to move on.

Not or maybe he will, if you stop doing it, no, no, no, no, because if that person is putting you in that space, then you maybe pull back on the relationship. I think what I say, I'm just going to take another contact now. Thank you. I'll thank you.

I'll thank you. I'll thank you. That was a complete meeting. And I will probably with that sometimes.

But I think what I was trying to convey was that we're in the process of dating somebody and you're looking for a meet to protect and provide for you, because at the most primal level, that's what women are looking for in a man, at the most primal level, whether they want to meet her or the night. I know everybody in the independent name, or the rest of their shit. But even Beyonce, we're not supposed to be in the opinion that is, and if you like it, then you got to put a ring on it as she's married. And she's married and she doesn't behave in a manner in which her songs convey.

But what I'm saying is I can process a dating somebody. The process is getting to know somebody. When you come with feminine action of the top, there's not going to turn them off. There's going to make them want to step up to the plate in my opinion, because we're just, you know, and I'm doing business stuff off of my experience.

And without seeing just growing up. I don't know what I'm going to do. Yeah. Okay.

So we've come to it and I really do hate co-ordinates throughout so early, because I feel like we have some good dialogue. But I'm just so I don't know if people can hear that. I'm so very, very, very tired. And I, yeah, I've been, I've been taking place in the rest of this stuff and trying to get it together.

But what do you have going on? What's going on? What's next, I might, the people want to know. Okay.

So the vision was supposed to be coming. If everything works out, we should have something to begin in November visually. If it does not work out, we will go back to audio in November the first Monday in November, we will be back on no matter the way that that goes. Okay.

Is anything else you got going on? Do you want people to know about? Because they're working on the book. It's much harder than I expected.

I'm just saying about the book. What about the reason? No, well, my kids want to like the book and honor their dead. So we're working on that.

It's basically speaking about who walked their father at a young age. So they want to, you know, write a book about their emotions and how do you, you know, work in the room. And they're still working through them. So it's a process of what they do want to put out something and honor their dead.

So we're working on it. That's good. That's good. That's good.

I like to keep going. That's good. You know, that's good. But I also don't know what something that they want to do for a day.

Right. You know, I got my book coming out of my day. It's coming out. I saw it.

Can't we, can I? Then I got another book and I found a 13 patient. So I'm going to let right now. And I'm sorry, one could 12.

Yeah, go ahead. I don't mean not talk about the book that's on Amazon right now. Oh, it's from a song. Yeah, this is.

Listen, I. But you're breaking up. Hey, hello? Hello?

I don't know if you're listening. I'm going to get you back here. We don't get you back here. You bet.

Yeah, I'm sorry. I don't know how I got those. Yeah, what are you saying? What's up?

I know I'm trying to plug your book. That's all. Listen, that is the softer side of you. So I want to really go and eat that book.

It is amazing. Dialo in that book. I want to I should have brought I want to read something off of it. Because it's like a stock beside you.

I love it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but you know, it's not really about the plug it like that because it's doing well overseas, but it's not doing well in the United States. I find it to be very hilarious, like the pain, pain, and I guess place is very smart. But art is more appreciated.

Then that's why I don't really plug it like a reason. Just like you guys say, I feel like I'm here with the documentary when I'm noticing it. Locally, I'm not really getting that much coverage, but like in the East Coast City, like Washington, DC, and all of these places, New York, like I'm getting a lot of coverage and people want to cover the movie. And it's like they're very interested about it.

But that's how much back home. Well, listen, you know, I'm going to promote promote this situation. So I can't promote it anymore. I'm going to be discussing your book on my podcast.

I'm going to be reading some stuff out of this. I want you to be there to break it down for me in real time on how you felt at that moment. Yeah. So because you know, that book came out of just out of just, you know, just out of book love of my life that just, you know, they actually came from this one person.

She really inspired the book. I won't say her name or her book. If you know me, then you know what I'm talking about. And and though it's not my AC, I say it's not her.

But, but um, yeah. Oh, yeah. I appreciate it. Thank you.

I appreciate it so much for that. So leave us with some positive. Um, I think the positive note for today would be for me is don't give up on love, but find somebody that really loves you the way that you love them. Sometimes find somebody who loves you more.

Right. Loves you more than you love yourself. Um, I definitely want you guys to find somebody that brings something out of you that is good. Um, but yet let's deal with our own issues before we bring them to relationships.

I think we need to self love and self care first before we go into seeking interrelationships with others. Well said. Um, my positive thought would be, um, I guess, I guess I'll just based off experience this week is just always listen to your voice. I'm talking about the good boys in the head.

The good boys in the head, you need to always listen to it. But the bad boys, I need you to kill the bad boys because you didn't put their boys there. Um, like I'm always told, God, Allah, he always do things that love. He wants to do things that love and I love for yourself with some fear putting you at any point in time, which I feel about, which is the devil and something that you don't need, get rid of it and handle your business.

Now, I really want to thank you for joining me tonight. Snakes. Always. Thanks.

Thanks for joining us giving your thoughts on things and, you know, we've got some good dialogue going on. I've actually got something playing I won't serve it right now, but I'm, um, you got something playing, but just thank you for coming on the show as much as you do. I would appreciate you. Always always always.

Yeah, we just spoke truth to power. I want everybody have a good night. Good night. Greetings greetings.

Welcome to another episode of truth to power. I'm your host, Tyra Smith, and tonight we'll be joined by Snakes. We'll be talking about sexual confusion. This will be the part three episode of that.

Um, and I know some, you know, it just continues to keep happening. But, and it seems like we're being a day horse, but we got to bring light to the situation that's going on. We're going to talk about these commercials about these tampons, men with tampons. We're going to be talking about, um, there's billion air deaths, basically paying for queer studies to be done at, I used to be so university, which is filming.

And also we're going to be talking about transgender is getting turned down for sex and calling in a hate crime. So you are so welcome to join us.