Blindsided By Red Flags In Your 30s? Here's How To Remove The Shame

EPISODE 65: Blindsided By Red Flags In Your 30s? Here's How To Remove The ShameIf you’ve ever thought, “How did I miss that?” “I should’ve known better” “I can’t believe I didn’t recognise that sooner” or “After everything I’ve worked on… how the fuck did I fall for this?” this is the episode for you.In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m diving into something I don’t think we talk about enough: the shame that creeps in when you get blindsided by red flags, even after your healing era. You’ve done the work. You’ve been to therapy. You’ve raised your standards. So how tf did you still fall for someone who wasn’t good for you? I’ve been there, and I know how disheartening it feels when you realise you ignored signs you swore you’d never overlook again. Listen now for your permission slip to forgive yourself, stop spiralling, and shift back into your confident, take-no-shit energy.Here’s a sneak peek into what we discuss:1. The shame spiral after ignoring red flags, even post-healing2. Why subtle red flags are often the most damaging3. How to stop blaming yourself and rewrite your narrative4. The simple 4-step “Switch Your Story” process to release shame5. Why they don’t deserve access to you (including your social media)6. How to affirm your way back into an empowered mindset7. Revisiting your standards, even if you’re not looking for “The One”Mentioned:Confident AF: The MembershipThe Confidence CourseAm I Actually Delusional?! The Rollercoaster of Modern DatingBurned Haystack Dating Method Facebook GroupGet Involved!You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  Support The Date with Confidence PodcastIf you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:1) Share the podcast with your friends2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertainingVisit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.