Book Series: Chapter 3- Neo-Exiles, Abandonment Anxiety and Ways Our Parts Can Sabotage Relationships

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Episode 3 of my Book Series on "You Are the One You've Been Waiting For" by Dr. Richard Schwartz.Make sure to catch up on episodes 1 & 2 first!This is Part 1 of Chapter 3- Courageous Love & Doomed Relationships.In this episode I cover:What are Neo-exiles?Identifying parts of us that become exiled because they are not acceptable to our partner;Reflecting on how we have done the same to our partners The consequences of neo-exiles in relationships The role of abandonment anxietyThe 2 roles you may take on when experiencing anxiety in a relationship:1- over-controlling, criticizing, hyperawareness, demanding closeness 2-becoming the one who is least-invested: hyper-independence, avoiding closeness, seeking distance Actual examples from the book and couples therapy Reflection Questions:What parts have been exiled because they are not accepted by my partnerWhat parts of my partner have they exiled because I find them unnacceptableWhich role do I take on in the relationship (as stated above)What cycles do my partner and I get into because of neo-exiles Get this book: available on Kindle, Audible and Paperbackhttps://a.co/d/8It64Xd[Raquel is an IFS level 1 trained therapist but is not affiliated directly with this book, or the IFS institute. This book review series is purely for educational purposes based on her experience as a couples and IFS therapist and her personal joy of reading]  Support the showDisclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. If you are seeking therapy services in AZ and would like a free consultation schedule below!Schedule with a TherapistCheck out my private practice, InnerBloom Therapy Services in Phoenix Let's connect on InstagramLove this podcast? Please rate and write a review on Apple podcasts so we can spread the message!