Boundaries Are Not a Tug of War | DIVO- Ted Talks

You're carrying other people's chaos in your body and wondering why you can't find steady ground.⸻Quote from the Episode"Boundaries aren't meant to be a tug of war. They're meant to be the place that I'm willing to walk up to and then we can see each other from that boundary."⸻DescriptionSome days the world feels so loud and so contradictory that it gets hard to tell what is actually happening and what your nervous system is doing with it. I sat with that here. The pressure of trying to live your life while everything around you feels tense, divided, and emotionally loaded. That kind of stress does not just stay in your thoughts. It lands in your body, your mood, and your spirit too.What I kept coming back to is perception. If I do not clean the windows of perception, then every interaction gets filtered through old beliefs, fear, exhaustion, and familiarity. Then I start reacting to the story I am telling myself instead of what is actually true. I talk about anger, emotional manipulation, homeostasis, and why boundaries are not supposed to become a wall or a power struggle.⸻A Map of WisdomHere are some of the places we go together in this talk:✦ Why stress from the world does not stay in the world✦ How beliefs shape the feelings that hit the body✦ What it means to clean the windows of perception✦ Why boundaries are about conserving energy, not control✦ How quiet and solitude bring you back to your own set point✦ The difference between authentic feeling and outsourced emotion⸻Markers on the Path(00:00) - When the world feels heavy(02:03) - The story does not line up(03:12) - Anger poisons the one holding it(05:06) - Clean the windows of perception(06:29) - Boundaries are not a tug of war(08:49) - Quiet is how you find your set point⸻Something to Sit WithWhere in my life am I asking other people or outside circumstances to decide how I feel?⸻A Restorative Step:Take sixty seconds and sit still without fixing anything. Notice one feeling in your body. Then ask, “What would actually have to be true for this feeling to make sense right now?” Let the question open the window a little.__________Stay Connected:🌐 https://divowellness.com📬 DIVOted Newsletter: https://divowellness.com/newsletter-signup/📍 DIVO Wellness — Greensboro, NC— 🧡 DIVO Wellness — Movement is the Way