Boundaries: listener question

Hi dear Clare!I would love that you speak something about the balance between two things; to see the thing in myself that I see in another ("see the narcissist in me" from your recent podcast) and the thing that we are also influenced by others. I really like that you speak about seeing the same things in ourselves. For me there is a healthy humility that comes from this. But also at the same time see that we are influenced by one another and not bypass our own feelings and accept things from others that are not ok. So I guess I look for some kind of healthy understanding and balance of two important things at the same time😄.You have spoken of this before, I guess I just wanted repetition.