Brandon Boyd: Grief, Connection & Communication Beyond Speech

David welcomes Brandon Boyd to The Lighter Side of the Spectrum for a father-to-father conversation about parenting a disabled child, grieving the imagined version of parenthood, and learning to truly see and delight in the child in front of you. Brandon shares Ben’s early missed milestones, a devastating and discouraging specialist visit in Denver around age one, and Ben’s later autism diagnosis at age two, describing years of being hyper-focused on “fixing” through therapies and fearing a lack of connection without speech. A pivotal McDonald’s moment helped Brandon become present, shift from hypervigilance to curiosity, and bond through Ben’s interests like the garage door, beads, swinging, and water, including a customized backyard pool. They discuss supporting Ben’s neurotypical brother Ethan, isolation among disability dads, and processing grief. Brandon describes Ben’s communication via signs, an iPad with LAMP, and recent spontaneous spelling, and explains why he wrote Delighting in Ben, now available on Amazon and Audible.   The book ‘Delighting in Ben’: https://a.co/d/0bA4O0pE   Topics 00:46 Fatherhood Grief 01:35 Meet Brandon and Ben 04:08 Early Signs and Specialists 05:51 Denver Diagnosis Shock 09:45 Fixing Mode Years 13:57 McDonalds Turning Point 17:52 Loving What Ben Loves 21:53 Pool Bonding Breakthrough 24:55 Balancing Ethan Too 28:34 Isolation and Processing 32:36 Family Gathering Stress 33:50 Communication Tools Update 35:08 Spelling Breakthrough 36:45 Aging Out and Empower 37:59 Exploring S2C Options 39:40 Puberty and Meltdowns 42:32 Stone Communication Journey 45:07 Why Write the Book 50:07 Hardest Chapters to Relive 53:05 Ben Joy and Growth 53:56 Tip of the Week 56:04 Autism Fact or Fiction 58:19 Parent Confession Segment 01:02:07 Book Plug and Farewell