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EPISODE · Jun 26, 2026 · 1H 10M

Break the Cycle of Toxic Love for Good | Sheleana Aiyana

from The School of Greatness · host Lewis Howes, Sheleana Aiyana

You keep ending up in the same painful relationship with a different face. The reason isn't who you're choosing. It's who they remind you of. Sheleana Aiyana grew up in and out of foster care, never met her father, and survived relationships she's lucky to have walked away from. Today she's the author of Becoming the One and the voice behind the Rising Woman community. She didn't heal by thinking harder. She healed by going into the body, into the nervous system patterns that kept pulling her back toward chaos that felt like home. This conversation goes somewhere most relationship advice won't. The trauma bond that makes leaving feel impossible. The wound you hand your partner without realizing it. The shadow vows that name your worst patterns out loud. The work that has to happen before love can feel safe instead of familiar. If you've ever wondered why the good ones feel boring and the wrong ones feel like fireworks, this one's going to land. Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself Amazon Ebook Audiobook   Becoming the One: A Guided Journal: Mend Your Relationship Patterns and Reclaim Your Self In this episode you will: Learn how somatic experiencing and nervous system work reach what talk therapy and meditation can't Discover why you keep recreating the same painful relationship long after you swore you were done with it Understand the trauma bond that makes leaving an unsafe relationship feel impossible Uncover the shadow vows Sheleana and her husband wrote to name their wounds out loud before marrying Recognize the projection that turns your partner into a stand-in for the parent who hurt you For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1946 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Lewis Howes Solo [Find The PERFECT Relationship] Stephen Chandler Baya Voce TOPICS Sheleana Aiyana, Becoming the One, conscious relationships, attachment wounds, somatic experiencing, trauma bonding, inner child healing, nervous system regulation, re-parenting, shadow vows Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Sheleana Aiyana, author of Becoming the One and founder of the Rising Woman community, joins Lewis Howes to discuss conscious relationships, attachment wounds, trauma bonding, and somatic healing. Drawing on Peter Levine's somatic experiencing and his book Waking the Tiger, Imago therapy from Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, and Gottman Institute research, Aiyana covers nervous system regulation, inner child re-parenting, the father wound, and the shadow vows she created with her husband before marriage.

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