Breaking Free From Emotional Abuse Patterns

In this episode, Loraine delves into her personal experiences surrounding domestic violence and financial manipulation during her tumultuous relationship with her former partner. As October marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Loraine shares insights from her July 2021 email communications, revealing the emotional and financial tactics. Loraine discusses the conflicting legal advice she received, the emotional manipulation involving her deceased father, and the power dynamics that persisted even after their separation. KEY TAKEAWAYS The episode highlights the tactics used by a former partner to maintain control over the host, including emotional manipulation and financial coercion. The dynamics between the host and her former partner illustrate a significant power imbalance. The partner leverages financial resources and emotional tactics to exert control. Loraine discusses the criticism received for sharing personal experiences on social media, emphasizing the importance of having a support network and the challenges faced when communicating one's truth publicly. The episode outlines the difficulties encountered in the legal process, including conflicting advice from legal professionals and the manipulation of financial offers during mediation. Loraine is dedicated to creating a supportive community for women over 40 who are dealing with trauma or grief from relationship endings, providing a safe space for connection, resources, and transformation. No Cost, Zero Commitment, Support Community for Women over 40 https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/ https://www.youtube.com/@successwithloraine/podcasts Merch: https://successwithloraine.com/merch/ ★☆★ Follow Me Here ★☆★ https://linktr.ee/loraine_mms BEST MOMENTS "The conflicting advice then was, do not make any more gender violence complaints. You will make him angry." "P's behaviour... aligns with the pattern of a perpetrator seeking to maintain control and silence their victim." "He uses a tactic that I wrote about in my first book. DARVO, an acronym... based on the work of psychologist Jennifer Freed." "This constant shifting of terms keeps Loraine in a state of uncertainty and insecurity." "Money and legal actions are the weapons that manipulators use to emotionally and financially devastate their victims." HOST BIO Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former property management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016. She had dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner, and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.