Breaking Free from Overachiever Habits in Dating: Coaching with Kimmy episode artwork

EPISODE · Mar 13, 2026 · 43 MIN

Breaking Free from Overachiever Habits in Dating: Coaching with Kimmy

from Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Are you a smart, successful and high achiever who has your life together but when it comes to dating and flirting you feel completely stuck?  What if the very strengths that make you thrive at work are holding you back in your love life?  In Episode 435 of The Charisma Quotient, "Breaking Free from Overachiever Habits in Dating: Coaching with Kimmy," Kimmy sits down for a coaching call with Elena, a smart, stylish, and accomplished woman who finds herself struggling to tap into her feminine energy, especially in the dating world.    They dig beneath the surface, exploring the root causes behind why high-achieving women often get stuck in the friend zone rather than the flirt zone. Elena bravely shares her experiences growing up in a Latina, Catholic household where strength, leadership, and independence were heavily emphasized—and how those qualities, while powerful in her career, present real challenges in romantic scenarios. Kimmy breaks down three key roadblocks—from childhood conditioning and cultural influences to control as a form of emotional safety—which can make it difficult to relax, be playful, and enjoy receiving attention.    You'll hear: How career-driven habits can sabotage your ability to flirt and connect in romantic settings The difference between leading with masculine energy vs. tapping into your feminine energy (and why it matters) Why many high-achieving women default to "interviewing" on dates and how to break this pattern The impact of early family and cultural messages around strength, attractiveness, and being "enough" Kimmy's targeted advice and specific "homework" assignments to practice receiving attention and getting comfortable being seen   If you have difficulties being playful, flirtatious and having fun with dating, then join Kimmy's next LIVE co-ed workshop How To Meet People IRL.  You'll learn how to use your energy, body language, and subtle flirting cues to invite connection without forcing it or feeling awkward. Just go to www.stophatingdating.com to register.  Hurry!  Spots go fast!   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Episode metadata supplied by the publisher feed · Published Mar 13, 2026

Embed this episode

NOW PLAYING

Breaking Free from Overachiever Habits in Dating: Coaching with Kimmy

0:00 43:27

No transcript for this episode yet

We transcribe on demand. Request one and we'll notify you when it's ready — usually under 10 minutes.

No similar episodes found.

No similar podcasts found.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long is this episode of Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love?

This episode is 43 minutes long.

When was this Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love episode published?

This episode was published on March 13, 2026.

Can I download this Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love episode?

Yes. Use the download control on the episode player to save the publisher-provided media file.
URL copied to clipboard!