Breaking the Cycle Starts With You: Regulating Yourself to Repair the Relationship

In this episode of Your Parent Coach, I’m joined by Safiya Omosanya, a mum of three and a trauma-informed cycle-breaking coach, for a deeply honest conversation about what it really means to break generational patterns.Safiya shares how her middle daughter became the catalyst for her conscious parenting journey, and why learning to regulate herself first completely transformed her relationship with her children. We talk about why behaviour is often a mirror, not the problem, how triggers are powerful clues for healing, and why kids need emotionally regulated caregivers more than perfect strategies.This conversation is compassionate, real, and incredibly validating, especially if you didn’t receive a healthy parenting blueprint growing up. Safiya also shares practical nervous system tools parents can start using right away, including Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and why repair, accountability, and self-work are the foundations of safe connection.If you’ve ever felt stuck, triggered, or like you’re repeating patterns you swore you wouldn’t - this episode is for you.🎧 Listen with an open heart, and know that growth starts with awareness, not shame.You can connect with Safiya on Instagram at @safiya_thecyclebreakingmom.Connect with me @melwhiteparentcoach on IG and follow the podcast @yourparentcoachpodcast on IG