Bridging the (Age) Gap in Relationships: Love, Growth & Fear with Asha Elias. Ep. 179 Part ONE

Welcome back! Today we have Asha Elias joining us and listen up, this is gonna be a fun one. She is a writer, a mother, and a “reluctant” socialite. Asha Elias is a contributing writer for Cosmopolitan Magazine, a regular columnist for the Miami New Times, and most recently authored the book Pink Glass Houses and The Namaste Club.We have a lot to talk about today, from age gaps in relationships, which is one of my favorite topics now ;), to being a public person who is somewhat private, to also having the guts to go after what you really want in life.I have a feeling that things are going to get a little spicy, in the best way possible, so let’s get started. Tune in!BTW. Are you looking for deeper connection? You know what I say. “Come sit with us.” But for real. Join my EXCLUSIVE online women’s community for Becoming: HER today.Xoxo,Nikki SpoIn this episode…Age Gaps in Relationships Women are Problem SolversThe “Standard” for WomenFear in Pursuing DreamsRejectionInsecurities in DatingQuotes“I made myself grow up faster, than I needed to” - Asha Elias“I wanted to be someone who was valuable enough for his love because I had kind of felt broken and unlovable. So I thought if I could make myself worthy of this man, then that would be an accomplishment” - Asha Elias“All of these characteristics that made up who I was scared me, and so I thought if I could change myself to be someone worthy of this man, then I would have a much better shot of making it in life” - Asha Elias“It's more fun and more hopeful to have the dream, than to actually get there. I think it scares people” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 0:17 |”I Wanted to Be Someone Who was Valuable Enough for His Love”0:17 - 0:50 | Intro0:50 - 2:10 | Intro to Asha2:10 - 7:15 | Age Gaps in Relationships7:15 - 9:36 | Placing Self-Value in Relationships9:36 - 11:22 | Women as Fixers: Problem-Solvers, Self-Sacrifice, & Finding Alignment11:22 - 13:20 | Fear in Pursuing Dreams13:20 - 13:54 | Becoming: HER Online Community13:54 - 15:12 | There's a “Darkness, when the Thing Happens”15:12 - 18:00 | The Evolution of Pink Glass Houses18:00 - 19:25 | Rejection19:25 - 23:28 | Diving Back into the Dating Pool23:28 - 27:50 | Dating Younger & Facing New Insecurities 27:50 - 28:48 | Outro  —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/aboutConnect with Asha [email protected] with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappso / @wearebecoming_herSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.