Burnout Is Silently Destroying Your Marriage

In this episode of Startup Spouses, Marie Intimacy coach) and Adam (business coach) get real about burnout: what it looks like, how it sneaks up on you, and why hustle culture is conditioning an entire generation — including our kids — to run on empty.Drawing from their own experiences with sobriety, family business near-bankruptcy, a daughter's eating disorder, and a global pandemic all hitting at once, they share the mindset shifts and practical tools that helped them rebuild their capacity — and their marriage.You'll hear about:Why "giving 110%" is actually a red flag — and what to say insteadThe 80% Rule: how training for Ironman Triathlon taught Adam a better way to work, live, and leadHow burnout shows up in your body before your brain catches onSimple embodiment practices to reconnect with yourself under stressWhy your intimacy life is the first casualty of chronic burnout — and how to protect itThe power of scheduling connection (yes, including sex) to keep your relationship from becoming a roommate situationEpisode: BurnoutStartup Spouses — helping entrepreneurial couples go from mediocre to mind-blowingIn this episode:[Intro] Marie & Adam introduce the topic of burnout and its connection to hustle cultureAdam's personal burnout story: panic attacks in college, over-functioning in the family business, and even "recovery burnout" in sobrietyMarie's burnout story: working restaurant shifts without breaks, young kids + undiagnosed ADHD, panic attacks driving to workHow burnout nearly destroyed their marriage when business insolvency, COVID, a daughter's eating disorder, and a move all hit in the same two monthsThe 80% Rule — the Maffetone Method, heart rate training, and how building capacity at 80% makes your 80% better than everyone else's 110%Signs of burnout: weight changes, heart palpitations, nervous system dysregulation, loss of libido, anger, disconnectionEmbodiment tools: breathwork, body check-ins, placing a hand on your chest, gratitude practice as a gateway to mindfulnessWhy scheduling intimacy isn't unromantic — it's essentialUnderstanding responsive vs. spontaneous desire and what your partner actually needs to feel connectedHow prioritizing your relationship fuels everything else in your life and businessResources mentioned:Weekly Spouse Meeting Framework (download in show notes)The Maffetone Method (heart rate-based training)If you enjoyed this episode:Share it with a friend who needs to hear itLeave a 5-star reviewSubscribe so you never miss an episode"Let's build mind-blowing relationships with our spouses so we can build great businesses."Show Notes