But It Was a Woman? Validating Survivors of Same-Sex Sexual Violence with Alice Mills Mai

Content Warning: This episode contains conversations about various forms of sexual assault and violence. Please prioritise your well-being and listen with care. If you need to, feel free to skip this episode.In this episode, Alice Mills Mai helps us understand the sexual trauma often faced by same-sex violence survivors. She defines what intimate partner violence can look like and speaks to the reality that healing and trauma recovery don't look the same for every survivor. Society and authorities lessen the severity of these charges because "it was just a woman." Yet bodies only remember the sexual violence exerted on them, not the gender of the perpetrator. This problem exists because the legal definition of rape or sexual assault is penetration-centred, ignoring non-consensual acts such as touching, coercion, and the violation of boundaries within BDSM dynamics.Dr. Alice brings a key perspective on validating survivors' experiences, especially when their trauma is dismissed because the perpetrator was another woman. The discussion sheds light on the barriers faced by marginalised groups, including Black women, masculine-presenting lesbians, and fat women, who are often not believed by law enforcement or their own communities.Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community.More from us:Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing NewsletterFollow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharingSupport the podcast:If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen  Be a guest:If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to [email protected] by Content Is Queen.-------------------------------Keywords: sexual violence, sexual assault, sexual trauma, consent, LGBTQIA+, body image, sex and sexuality, trauma healing, Dr Alice The Trauma Therapist,