Calculated Risks

Does it ever feel like you have to walk on egg shells no matter what around your spouse? In this episode, Maurice Harker, Director of Life Changing Services, discusses the importance of taking calculated risks in relationships and emphasizes that the purpose of life isn't to avoid pain or getting hurt. Drawing parallels with ice skating and sports coaching, Maurice encourages individuals to approach relationships with a risk-taking mindset, prepared for potential challenges. Maurice introduces the concept of a calculated risk assessment, where individuals assess the potential risks and benefits before taking action in a relationship. He explains that in relationships, there will always be some level of risk, and the goal is to be wise in managing and navigating these risks. Using the metaphor of ice skating and choreography, Maurice explains the process of trying and adjusting interactions in relationships. He stresses the importance of studying oneself, reflecting on interactions, and making plans for improvement. This process involves being willing to adjust choreography or plans when necessary to prevent further harm. Maurice emphasizes that both partners in a relationship should actively engage in self-improvement and bring a plan for how they intend to be better in the relationship. He encourages open communication and an intentional effort to work together to create a fulfilling partnership. Furthermore, Maurice introduces a checklist for assessing readiness to enter "season one" of the relationship. He discusses the importance of being in good emotional and psychological condition before reengaging in certain relationship activities. In conclusion, Maurice acknowledges that frustrations may arise in relationships, especially when progress isn't as fast as desired. However, he advocates for maintaining a dignified, courteous, and gracious attitude when dealing with frustrations. Tune in to this episode for insights on embracing risks, managing challenges, and fostering growth in a relationship.