Can We Still Be Friends?
In this podcast episode of "Getting Inside the Right Male Mind," hosts Lisa and Benjamin Shields discuss the topic "Can We Still Be Friends?". They delve into why men and women sometimes suggest staying friends post-breakup and the potential emotional consequences of such arrangements. The conversation highlights how both genders can string each other along, leading to prolonged emotional distress and false hope. They share insights on how people deceive themselves in these situations, the imbalance it creates, and the impact on self-esteem. The hosts also provide advice for breaking free from these unhealthy dynamics, recommending resources like Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) and the book "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody. The episode culminates with an invitation for successful women seeking love to explore Lisa’s coaching program.
Episode 209 of the Finding the Guardian of Your Soul podcast, hosted by Benjamin Shield Ph.D- CoHost/Author, Lisa Shield- Host/Love Coach & Expert, titled "Can We Still Be Friends?" was published on July 29, 2025 and runs 22 minutes.
July 29, 2025 ·22m · Finding the Guardian of Your Soul
Summary
In this podcast episode of "Getting Inside the Right Male Mind," hosts Lisa and Benjamin Shields discuss the topic "Can We Still Be Friends?". They delve into why men and women sometimes suggest staying friends post-breakup and the potential emotional consequences of such arrangements. The conversation highlights how both genders can string each other along, leading to prolonged emotional distress and false hope. They share insights on how people deceive themselves in these situations, the imbalance it creates, and the impact on self-esteem. The hosts also provide advice for breaking free from these unhealthy dynamics, recommending resources like Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) and the book "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody. The episode culminates with an invitation for successful women seeking love to explore Lisa’s coaching program.
Episode Description
In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin Shields discuss the complex emotions and pitfalls surrounding the question, 'Can we still be friends?' after a romantic relationship ends. They delve into the reasons why people might hold on to these 'friendships,' the emotional distress and false hopes it creates, and offer advice on how to move forward in a healthy manner.
Highlights:
- The Real Reasons Behind 'Can We Still Be Friends?'
- Consequences of Staying 'Friends'
- Personal Anecdotes and Observations
- The False Hope Cycle
- When to Cut Ties
- Case Study: A Year-Long Obsession
- Compartmentalization and Friends With Benefits
- Impact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health
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