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EPISODE · Aug 13, 2025 · 20 MIN

Carrie & Big’s Toxic Love: The Truth About Sex and the City’s Most Problematic Relationship

from You Will Be OK · host Sabrina Bendory

In this episode, I break down the messy, magnetic, and ultimately toxic relationship between Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big from Sex and the City. From the very first season, the red flags were impossible to ignore—yet Carrie (and let’s be honest, many of us watching) romanticized their on-again, off-again rollercoaster as “true love.” I share why I believe Carrie and Big’s relationship was never healthy, how Carrie’s insecurities and Big’s commitment preferences—not “fears”—kept them stuck in an exhausting cycle, and why Carrie was in love with the idea of Big, not the man himself. If you’ve ever been caught in a situationship, obsessed with someone who won’t commit, or stuck in a breakup/makeup loop, this episode will hit home. I also unpack the role of attachment styles in relationship dynamics so you can spot these patterns before they drain you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The early red flags in Carrie and Big’s relationship Why Big’s “commitment issues” weren’t what they seemed How Carrie’s emotional reactions kept the cycle going The difference between loving someone and loving the idea of them How understanding attachment styles can save you heartache Learn more here: https://www.sabrinabendory.com Follow me! Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ Tik Tok: @sabrinabendory - https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrinabendory #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #CarrieBradshaw #Mr.Big #SexandtheCity #toxicrelationship #commitmentissues #attachmentstyles #love #relationshipadvice #datingadvice #breakup See show notes: https://inlet.fm/you-will-be-ok/episodes/689c627bf3dd635ae0cfb0bd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I break down the messy, magnetic, and ultimately toxic relationship between Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big from Sex and the City. From the very first season, the red flags were impossible to ignore—yet Carrie (and let’s be honest, many of us watching) romanticized their on-again, off-again rollercoaster as “true love.” I share why I believe Carrie and Big’s relationship was never healthy, how Carrie’s insecurities and Big’s commitment preferences—not “fears”—kept them stuck in an exhausting cycle, and why Carrie was in love with the idea of Big, not the man himself. If you’ve ever been caught in a situationship, obsessed with someone who won’t commit, or stuck in a breakup/makeup loop, this episode will hit home. I also unpack the role of attachment styles in relationship dynamics so you can spot these patterns before they drain you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The early red flags in Carrie and Big’s relationship Why Big’s “commitment issues” weren’t what they seemed How Carrie’s emotional reactions kept the cycle going The difference between loving someone and loving the idea of them How understanding attachment styles can save you heartache Learn more here: https://www.sabrinabendory.com Follow me! Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ Tik Tok: @sabrinabendory - https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrinabendory #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #CarrieBradshaw #Mr.Big #SexandtheCity #toxicrelationship #commitmentissues #attachmentstyles #love #relationshipadvice #datingadvice #breakup See show notes: https://inlet.fm/you-will-be-ok/episodes/689c627bf3dd635ae0cfb0bd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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