Chapter 5 - Community Alone Won't Save You

"You need community. You can't do this alone." It's the advice people get often — so you find a group, you lean on your friends, maybe you start dating before you're ready. And some of it helps. A little. But feeling less alone isn't the same as getting better, and most people never learn the difference until they've worn out the people who love them. This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years. In this episode, meet Jon, who drove to a support group desperate for help and got YouTube videos instead; Brad, who leaned so hard on his friends he could feel them start to pull away; and Kevin Van Liere's own ten months in a relationship that helped him survive but never let him heal. The thread connecting all of them: community, curriculum, and structure still aren't enough on their own. What actually moves people from stuck to free is trained facilitators who show you how to do the work, proven methods, real accountability, and a group doing it alongside you — the difference between Jon at 15 and Jon at 90. If you've been leaning on everyone around you and still feel stuck, start here. Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: Rebuilders.net/drs Join us at Phoenix Live. Free, live — real people at every stage of divorce recovery, doing the work together. Come just to listen the first time. Save your spot: Rebuilders.net/phoenix-live And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat. If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if you know someone going through a divorce, send it their way. It might be exactly what they need right now.