Chapter 88: Mel Robbins on stalling self sabotage and celebrating sexual selectivity

I love Mel Robbins. I am one of the 30 million people who've viewed her TED Talk "How to stop screwing yourself over" and I'm one of the two million people who have a copy of The Five-Second Rule on my bookshelf. If you asked me five years ago if I'd have a book on my shelf telling people to simply count backwards from five to get out of bed, ask somebody out, or leave a toxic relationship well … I would have thought you were batty. But that would have been just a few months before I met Mel and when I heard the way she talked about it and the science behind it, well … I was all in. It's no wonder her videos have over a billion views or why Sony Pictures asked her to host an eponymous daytime talk show. Because there is something singularly captivating about the no-nonsense-science-backed-habits-from-a-Midwestern-farmer type way Mel thinks, writes, and speaks. Do you have plans today? If you have an hour or two free why don't you pull up a chair with us in Bryant Park in midtown Manhattan on a warm and sunny afternoon and let's the three of us give a pub day toast to Mel's new book The High 5 Habit and discuss some of life's biggest themes through her three most formative books. Let's turn the page into Chapter 88 now…   What You'll Learn: What do having a child and writing a book have in common? How can an author detach themselves from what their book will or will not accomplish? Why do we need external validation? What is the power of dopamine? What is the power of celebratory energy? How can we stop squandering time? What is successful parenting? How should we think about proximity to family as we age? How should we talk about sex with our kids? How can we talk to our kids about the experience of sex? How should we talk to kids about pornography? Why are we uncomfortable talking about sex and pleasure? What are the perils of breast implants? How should we think about career shifts? How should we define success? How do we gain the courage to pursue our dreams? Why should you ask yourself if you want to high-five your job? What is a high-five marriage?   You can find show notes and more information by clicking here: https://www.3books.co/chapters/88    Leave us a voicemail. Your message may be included in a future chapter: 1-833-READ-A-LOT.   Sign up to receive podcast updates here: https://www.3books.co/email-list    3 Books is a completely insane and totally epic 22-year-long quest to uncover and discuss the 1000 most formative books in the world. Each chapter discusses the 3 most formative books of an inspiring person. Sample guests include: Brené Brown, David Sedaris, Malcolm Gladwell, George Saunders, Angie Thomas, Daniels, Cheryl Strayed, Rich Roll, Soyoung the Variety Store Owner, Derek the Hype Man, Kevin the Bookseller, Vishwas the Uber Driver, Roxane Gay, David Mitchell, Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, Mark Manson, Seth Godin, Judy Blume, and Quentin Tarantino. 3 Books is published on the lunar calendar with each of the 333 chapters dropped on the exact minute of every single full moon all the way up to April 26, 2040. 3 Books is an Apple "Best Of" award-winning show and is 100% non-profit with no ads, no sponsors, no commercials, and no interruptions. 3 Books has 3 clubs including the End of the Podcast Club, the Cover to Cover Club, and the Secret Club, which operates entirely through the mail and is only accessible by calling 1-833-READ-A-LOT. Each chapter is hosted by Neil Pasricha, New York Times bestselling author of 'The Happiness Equation', 'Two-Minute Mornings', and 'The Book of Awesome.' For more info check out: https://www.3books.co