Choke Sex with Susan Messing

"If you're not having fun, you're the asshole," is a Susan Messing joint. It's a zen koan of a piece of comedy, art, and life advice that I took issue with back in my improv days. The hella influential improviser and teacher shares why she said it, her own issues with it, and ideas about death, learning what you actually want, a motorcycle ride with her dad, Neptune Society, and being choke fucked with love by a redwood tree.Content warning: cancer, stroke, improv comedy.Patreon supporters make This Is Your Afterlife possible and get awesome bonus episodes. Become an Afterhead at patreon.com/davemaher. Susan is teaching a 5-day improv intensive with Rachael Mason at iO Chicago December 12-16, which you can sign up for here.Follow Susan on Instagram: @susanalicemessingLeave me a voicemail to play on the show: (313) MIST-URA (647-8872).Subscribe to my newsletter, Definitive Answers, for weekly personal and culture essays, plus music recs. And follow me @thisisdavemaher on Twitter and Instagram.---Transcript: This Is Your Afterlife on PodscribeMusic = Future: "Use Me" / James Blackshaw: "The Cloud of Unknowing" / Johnnie Frierson: "Miracles"