Choose The Relationship You Want, Not Just The Person You Like

Send us Fan MailLooking for a roadmap to real connection without the burnout? We open up about our two very different returns to dating—one marked by deliberate healing and a long pause, the other by a quick dive into apps—and what those choices taught us about expectations, values, and compatibility. Then we’re joined by Jamie Anderson, a relationship coach and singles guru, who shares practical frameworks to move from confusion to clarity.Jaimee walks us through her Conscious Dating approach: identifying your five core values, translating long “wishlists” into the meaning underneath, and designing a vision for the relationship you want rather than chasing a perfect person. We dig into the Rule of Three to evaluate new groups and early dates, the “trust jar” method to rebuild confidence with tangible evidence, and the difference between feeling a spark and choosing a sustainable match. We also explore why interest‑based events—Latin dancing, hiking, game nights, even bingo—can outperform endless swipes by creating low‑pressure spaces where social skills grow and shared interests surface naturally.We don’t dunk on dating apps, but we do put them in their place: one line in the water. You’ll hear how to balance online tools with real‑world community, navigate midlife dating with non‑negotiables that actually matter, and use boundaries as self‑maintained guardrails instead of rules for others. Whether you’re newly single, rebuilding after divorce, or simply ready to date with intention, this conversation offers clear steps to shift from patterns to progress and from guessing to growth.If this resonated, tap follow, share it with a friend who’s back on the market, and leave a quick review—what’s your top value for a lasting relationship?Support the show