Choosing Solo Motherhood Over Dating + Nervous System Tools for Grounded

This conversation honestly felt like I was just sitting at a café with Nicky, having a proper yarn about life, dating, babies… and choosing yourself.Nicky Zachariou is a solo mum by choice to two beautiful boys and a semi-retired pole dance teacher who brings so much grounded wisdom into this chat. We talk about how she consciously chose solo motherhood, and how, even after giving “Mr. Right” one last try, she realised something very clear.When she went on dates, she noticed it.Finding a partner wasn’t her priority.Becoming a mother was.And that clarity shifted everything.But empowerment doesn’t mean it was easy.We speak honestly about the tough moments, the unresourceful thoughts, the “what will people think?” narratives, and the internal stories that can creep in, even when you’re deeply aligned in your choice.What I loved most about this conversation is how aligned we are in our approach to life and motherhood. Nervous system regulation. Grounding. Resourcing yourself instead of outsourcing your worth. Learning how to insource safety.We also talk about something that doesn’t get enough airtime tapping into joy on purpose and the power of pausing. Sometimes the most regulating thing you can do for your nervous system isn’t pushing harder… it’s stopping. Breathing. Letting your body catch up. Allowing moments of joy to recalibrate you.Because when we normalise regulating ourselves when we practise Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT), pattern interrupting, reframing, embodied grounding, and conscious pauses it doesn’t just change us.Our kids see it.They don’t do what we say.They do what we do.When regulation becomes our baseline, it becomes theirs too.Inside this episode, we explore:✨Choosing solo motherhood over waiting for the “perfect” partner✨ Dating while knowing motherhood is your true priority✨ EFT tapping for anxiety and fear✨ Nervous system regulation tools for grounding during doubt✨ The power of pausing instead of pushing✨ Reframing limiting narratives✨ Tapping into joy as a nervous system reset✨ Embodying the example you want your children to inheritThis episode is for any woman considering solo motherhood, navigating dating while wanting a baby, or sitting in that in-between space wondering what to choose.It’s real.It’s grounded.It’s empowering.And it’s a beautiful reminder that when we resource ourselves first, everything flows from there. Watch on You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCozlsyVMAvr_D-lK9crRDOQ✨ Nikki’s instagram below. @iamnikkizac✨ Connect with me, Betty:https://www.instagram.com/betty.fotofiliIf this episode resonated and you’d like support on your own journey, whether that’s confidence, decision-making, or feeling more regulated in your body, I offer 1:1 confidence coaching for women navigating the identity shift of solo motherhood and big life transitions. You’re welcome to reach out, connect, or simply follow along for future episodes and reflections.X Betty📌 Subscribe to Yes I Can Solo on YouTube for future conversations that support embodied confidence, self-trust, and aligned motherhood choices.#SoloMotherhood #SoloMumByChoice #YesICanSolo #FertilityJourney #InfertilityAwareness #IVFJourney #DonorConception #WomensStories #PodcastForWomen. #NervousSystemRegulation#SafetyInTheBody #EmbodiedConfidence #SlowDownToHeal #MindBodyConnection #EFT #RegulateYourNervousSystem #nervoussystemregulation