Choosing Wholeness in Relationships with Courtney Smith

According to Courtney Smith, fear can send us “below the line” in relationships. When you act from fear, you end up scrambling for security, control, and safety–often at the expense of wholeness. In this conversation, Dr. Diana Hill and Courtney Smith, author of Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness, explore ways to shift into more authentic relating. They explore how to stay grounded while connecting, how to notice when we are caught in a story, and how to become growth-oriented co-creators. Along the way, Diana and Courtney demo some of these skills in their relationship, in real time. This is a fun one, especially if you are craving deeper relationships–ones that meet you at the soul level. In This Episode, We Explore:How to know yourself and another with one-eye-in and one-eye-outGrowth mindset in relationshipsShift moves to approach life from a place of safetyHow to claim what you want, out loudWhat’s really behind envy and what to do about itFalse Refuges finding true securityThe Power of Soul FriendshipsSuggested Next Episode:Episode 114: How To Build Secure Relationships In An Insecure World With Dr. Ann KelleyRelated ResourcesGet enhanced show notes for this episodePlay bigger and have more impact in your therapy and coaching practice. Apply for my Wise Effort: Business of Therapy and Coaching 8-week programOrder my book, Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, and receive special bonus gifts.Want to become more psychologically flexible? Take Diana's "Foundations of ACT" course.Diana's EventsReserve your spot in Diana's Costa Rica retreat in 2026!See Diana at an upcoming eventConnecting With DianaSubscribe for free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Leave a 5-star review on Apple so people like you can find the show.Sign up for the free Wise Effort Newsletter.Become a Wise Effort member to support the show.Follow Diana on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and Diana’s website.Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.Mentioned in this episode:Business of Therapy and CoachingMake a big move in your therapy or coaching practice. Join the New Cohort Starting May 11Wise Effort: The Business of Therapy