Chris Kelly: Exploring Evolutionary Disconnects in WEIRD Modern Life

Get ready for a journey into our ancestral past! Today, I’m talking to Chris Kelly about the way we bond and socialize as humans and our genetic expectations for health. In this episode, you’ll finally learn the real truth about how our modern living arrangements (such as the monogamous, nuclear family) has a widespread effect on all areas of our lives.As you may already know, modern life is WEIRD and disconnected from our genetic expectations for health and our ancestral experience. WEIRD is actually an acronym for Westernized, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic. Society, as we know in the WEIRD world, is a wholly modern construct that is a product of religious dogma and heavy handedness dating back to the Middle Ages more so than a sophisticated way to live our best life as humans. But Chris is committed to going deeper and deeper to address these disconnects. As the founder of NourishBalanceThrive.com, a comprehensive health testing and consulting program, he has delved deep into the world of healthy eating, exercise, and stress management to optimize health. In this show, Chris turns his attention to our cultural norms that are actually a disconnect from our deepest biological human drives. Namely the monogamous nuclear family; the white picket fence phenomenon. Chris and his family are performing an experiment in 2020 by cohabiting with another family in the name of CO PARENTING and community child rearing. He’s stopping short of the recently popular trend of open relationships, but we definitely address the matter in the show; both males and females are wired to mate with multiple partners in the name of our deepest and most primitive biological draft of passing our genes onto the next generation. You’ll be fascinated by Chris’s quick mind and endless curiosity, as he shares fascinating stories and research that he has come across through his work. Chris talks about the true cost of loneliness, and reveals a very scary fact: “Being lonely is as dangerous as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.”Chris is truly a deep thinker, and he dispenses many thought-provoking insights and questions throughout this episode, and also provides a comprehensive reading list for you to dig deeper into this fascinating subject! Enjoy listening to the unique and incredibly well-informed perspective Chris has to offer, and check out the Nourish Balance Thrive podcast here!TIMESTAMPS:From diet and exercise, in this podcast, we are looking into the way we bond and socialize. [01:25]Chris talks about how discovering ancestral health stuff changed his life. [04:31]Are we too obsessed with delivering this message about ancestral health? [08:06]We live in a WEIRD (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic) society that colors our outlook on our world. [09:06]One can be surrounded by people and still be lonely which is detrimental to our health. [15:28]We differ from the great apes in the way we bear and raise our children. It’s important to look at that. [18:25]Aloe parents, according to anthropologists, means somebody other than the parents who contribute to child-rearing. [21:05]Anthropologists have studied the evolution of man. When did we lose our fur? [26:58]We hear that marrying your cousin is not a good idea, although research has shown that marrying your sixth cousin is a good idea! [27:42]The way we live now in a nuclear family is a result of a campaign that was run by the Catholic church in the middle ages. [29:20]Almost no animal in the world is truly monogamous. [33:54]Humans are one of the few primates that will abandon an infant given inadequate social support. [37:05]Our basic biological drives are in conflict with the advancement of culture. [40:47]After the age of 35 or so your reproductive fitness increases, if you stop having your own babies and you start investing in your daughter's kids. [45:24]Chris talks about his experiment with two families living together. [47:12]You can’t deny the biological urges. [56:44]In humans, the primary purpose of sex is not for reproduction. It is for bonding. [59:53]You need to get really clear on what it is that you value. [01:02:52]LINKS:Brad’s Shopping PageChris KellyNourish Balance ThriveLonelinessTribeMothers and OthersThe Weirdest People in the World.BehaveSex at DawnEthical SlutThe Values Guided Action Worksheet Join Brad for more fun on: Instagram: @bradkearns1Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphighTwitter: @bradleykearnsYouTube: @BradKearnsWe appreciate all feedback, and questions for Q&A shows, emailed to [email protected]. 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