Chris Marhefka on becoming the master of your life, the captain of your soul (#33)

2:05 - book recommendations from someone who read over 200 books on business and personal development. 4:47 -want to impact your business, family or community? Be the light. 6:12 - reading addiction. Did reading more books help you to grow?10:33 - why is it so hard to sustain a change in habit? 14:39 – does willpower and discipline work to change a habit? 18:16 – how to get beneath the surface to identify and change thought patterns. 24:40 – we think that stress is normal and a sign of success. 29:34  - isn't stress needed for growth? 35:02 – overcoming fears that seem to trap us. 42:52 – achievement vs fulfilment. 48:27 – we need an appropriate amount of pain before we change. 52:19 – Chris' story of burn out that caused him to change. 59:31 – how do we have a fulfilled life? 1:02:41 – the perfect day? 1:06:03 – relationships can be greatest source of pain or fulfilment. 1:10:23 – we treat other people through the lens of our own experience, often without realising. 1:15:37 – avoiding unnecessary conflicts in relationships. 1:19:22 – navigating conversations when emotions are high. The importance of trust and vulnerability. 1:23:21 – when I do nothing, that's when I find my best something. 1:25:00 – you get to choose. 1:28:08 – get in touch with Chris.  You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/chris-marhefka/