Coaches’ couch: What to do when your teen pulls away

Dayna and Jenny are joined by Parent Coach Sheridan Eketone for a deep dive into what teens really need from us during this important developmental stage. They chat about the importance of helping teens build a sense of competence, autonomy and connection - finding what lights them up and creating space for them to lean into their passions (yes, even if they seem a little quirky!). Alongside this, they unpack the quiet power of everyday moments, the ‘snatched’ connections that remind our young people that they’re loved without needing to earn it.  They also take an honest look at the things that can unintentionally push teens further away - from long lectures and ‘I-told-you-sos’ to stepping in too quickly to fix things - and how small shifts can make a big difference.  You’ll hear practical ways to:  Respond when you’re met with attitude or pushback  Avoid taking things personally when emotions are running high Make space for a ‘do-over’ when the relationship fractures Support your teen’s growing independence, without losing connection   They also shed some light on what’s happening developmentally in the teenage brain, and why - even when they act like they don’t need us - they still deeply do.   We reference Kathryn Berkett’s book: ‘What’s going on in there? The Neuroscience of the Adolescent Brain’. Check it out here: https://www.engagetraining.co.nz/my-book  Got a parenting challenge you need help with? Book a 1:1 coaching session online or in-person at parentingplace.nz/coaching    Parents We’ve Met is brought to you by Parenting Place – a charity with a heart for New Zealand families. Explore our self-guided online courses and hundreds of free parenting articles and ideas ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠.      Find us on:⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok ⁠⁠⁠/⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices