Codependency & The Mother Wound with Alyssa Zander

Josephine sits down with relationship coach and founder of Codependency Alchemy, Alyssa Zander, for a deeply honest conversation about the patterns that shape how we love, relate, attach, and abandon ourselves. Together, they explore codependency beyond its traditional definition—including the ways we learn to outsource our worth to relationships, achievement, validation, and being needed. Alyssa unpacks the mother wound and how unmet childhood needs for safety, protection, and attunement can follow us into adult relationships. They dive into inner child and shadow work, somatic healing, boundaries, sovereignty, and the often-codependent impulse to “fix” or coach our partners. Because healing isn't about getting someone else to change. It’s about learning to become a safe, sovereign home for yourself—and reclaiming the parts of you that were once abandoned, judged, or hidden away. A conversation about codependency, the mother wound, relational responsibility, and the radical intimacy of coming home to yourself. Alyssa Zander is a relationship coach, speaker, and the creator of Codependency Alchemy, an online community helping thousands of people heal codependency, anxious attachment, and relationship patterns through shadow work and inner child healing. Her work has reached millions through social media, her top-ranked podcast, and her writing on Substack, where she helps people build healthier relationships by first changing the relationship they have with themselves. Alyssa soul's mission is to heal the mother wound, and to share practical ways for us all to bring compassion to the parts of us we judge. website: https://www.codependencyalchemy.com