Coercive Control and Legal Gaps

In this episode, Loraine reads a chapter of her self-published book, where she describes the emotional and psychological abuse she experienced during her time living in Spain. Loraine recounts the challenges faced post-separation and highlights the gaps in legal protection for victims of abuse. Through her retelling, she aims to raise awareness about hidden abuse in relationships, the impact of post-separation abuse, and the need for better legal provisions to safeguard individuals in such situations. KEY TAKEAWAYS This episode discusses the author's experience of emotional and psychological abuse during a relationship in Spain. Loraine highlights the challenges faced in seeking legal help and protection in cases of emotional and psychological abuse. This chapter sheds light on the impact of COVID lockdown in Spain in March 2020 on the relationship dynamics. Loraine emphasizes the importance of raising awareness about hidden emotional and psychological abuse in relationships. BEST MOMENTS "All I wanted was what was promised and he went back on all the promises that he made." "A lot of solicitors, a lot of lawyers out there don't understand what it is to be in a situation of emotional and psychological abuse." "I finally felt that I was leaving behind the terrible memory of the past infidelity and I started to recover lost self-confidence again." "Victims of abuse often know that what has been happening to them isn't right, but they didn't understand or don't understand that it is domestic abuse and that it is now illegal." "He expected to be able to put another £100,000 into his retirement fund, telling me it was so that we could be secure in our retirement here in Spain." HOST BIO Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.