Coffee Connect: Learning How to be Safe People

Women are naturally wired to be good friends because they are more inclined towards relational depth and emotional connection. In our relationships we need to learn how to hold confidentiality, not be involved in character assassination, but rather be dignified, temperate and trustworthy. Women are naturally more sensitive and aware, and men need to learn how to tap into it. Women are naturally empathetic, compassionate, nurturing, have a capacity to carry emotional things, loyal, emotionally honest, intuitive, encouraging, have relational endurance, and naturally hospitable. To become a good confidant, it starts by being able to keep things received from the Lord a secret until He releases it to be shared. Then one should be able to keep your word to not share a confidentiality placed in your care. How one treats a confidentiality reveals your character, spiritual maturity, as well as your reverence for God. Confidentiality builds trust, strengthens love and promotes peace. Confidentiality protects peoples’ dignity, stops gossip in its tracts, covers in prayer and always speaks life with words that heal, restore and encourage. We should be like protective bank vaults where people can confidently leave their secrets. Being a woman of confidentiality means that you will not pass on what has been shared in confidence (except in cases where silence means being an accessory to something that needs to be dealt with), praying before speaking, honouring other peoples’ reputation as if it was your own, listening more than speaking, not participating in gossip even by silent agreement and before speaking questioning yourself with – what I am about to say, is it true? Necessary to say it? Is it kind, encouraging, or hurtful? Let us reflect the character of Christ in every conversation.