Colin Gleason on "Tell me the truth!" Leading Boys to Integrity

Why tell the truth when it doesn't always pay? It's important to let boys encounter this question through example, literature, and enough freedom to wrestle with his own conscience. In this rebroadcast of a 2017 talk, Head of Lower School Colin Gleason admits that you can't "teach" integrity with drills and facts. But you can create an environment that encourages it to develop. We have to push past consequentialism and avoid the adult instinct to root out the facts at any cost. Because the truth is a good and natural thing; the boy needs only to embrace it. Chapters: 3:12 Dishonesty: from toddlers to adults 5:51 Examples of integrity 10:04 Defining integrity, and whether we can teach it 13:36 Getting past "consequence" ethics 22:14 Homes and schools where integrity can take root 24:47 Trust: the power of relationship 33:47 Freedom: their own initiative 38:37 Friendship: ready to guide and help 45:03 Dishonesty from fear, honesty from confidence Links: Jeremy Affeldt repaid the Giants $500,000 after clerical error, CBS Sports, May 15, 2013 "Sportsman" Roddick falls in Rome, The Seattle Times, May 6, 2005 Also on the Forum: The Truth Shall Set You Free by Alvaro de Vicente Lying to Dumbledore: On Moral Consequentialism in Children's Literature featuring Joe Breslin and Tom Cox Featured Opportunities: Parents' Conference at The Heights School (April 25, 2026)