Compliments vs. Affirmations

Josh Gondelman takes a late-night call from a listener who's been trying to work on her husband's love language.What You'll Hear"That's a compliment, not an affirmation": Caller Lucy is stumped on why "you're so tall" doesn't count — and Josh helps her untangle the surprisingly slippery difference between noticing someone and actually seeing them.The birthday card loophole: It turns out Lucy writes a killer Father's Day message, she just freezes up when she has to say it out loud. Josh makes the case that the warmth she puts on paper belongs in the room, too.Scratched behind the ears: Before signing off, Josh dishes out a real-time affirmation demo — and it's pretty good. Plus: a good night for World Cup fans who stayed up way too late.CHAPTERS00:00 Intro & Maggie the pug's country vacation03:45 Welcome, Caller Lucy!04:28 Compliments vs. affirmations — what's the difference?09:00 Reverse-engineering the affirmation12:00 Two kids is spiritually more than twice as many17:00 The birthday card trick20:30 Relationship work & killing the cringe25:33 Good nights all aroundFor the fully immersive, phone free light + sound experience, learn more at hatch.co. Follow us on TikTok @hatchpodcasts and YouTube. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.