EPISODE · Aug 22, 2024 · 18 MIN
Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner
Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms. If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change ThatHow lies we tell ourselves hold us back from seeing our own valuePractical steps to start giving yourself the praise you deserve. Resources Mentioned:Decoding Your Unconscious Motivational Patterns (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80)Perfectionism Optimized: Patented, proven science-backed tools that help you take charge of your perfectionism and learn to celebrate your achievements the healthy way.Credible Scientific Sources Cited In Ep. 236Burton, K. D., Lydon, J. E., D'Alessandro, D. U., & Koestner, R. (2006). The differential effects of intrinsic and identified motivation on well-being and performance: Prospective, experimental, and implicit approaches to self-determination theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(4), 750-762. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.91.4.750Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2015). Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. SpringerLink. https://doi.org/10.1007-978-1-4899-2271-7Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms. If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to FEEL SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, STAND OUT in your industry and have PRESENCE even during your most stressful moments, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
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