Conflict Resolution: Why Humility Is the Only Way Through | Ep. 27

Most arguments don't fail because people ran out of words — they fail because nobody was willing to stop trying to win.Rahul Pillay explores why ego is the real barrier to resolving conflict, drawing on mentorship, marriage, and hard-earned personal experience. Van Pillay brings her background as a therapist to explain how the patterns we default to under pressure — criticism, contempt, defensiveness, withdrawal — are the exact patterns that quietly erode even strong relationships over time.The conversation gets practical fast. They walk through what humility actually looks like in the middle of an argument, why empathy is not the same as surrender, and what researcher John Gottman's decades of couples research reveals about the communication habits that predict whether a relationship will last.If you've ever felt like conflict just keeps circling without landing, this episode gives you a new place to start — not with better words, but with a different posture entirely.Find us on Spotify @pillayplacepodcasthttps://open.spotify.com/show/6yDlDhEWsh21t2zeg7f5AC?si=B7-HfM0VR6SJuI2i7l4KdgYouTube: @pillayplacepodcast https://www.youtube.com/@PillayPlacePodcast