Consent, Shame, & Healing: Overcoming Stigma in LGBTQ+ SA | With Lisa Etherson & Kyle McGovern

Welcome to Sex Tells, the podcast where we normalise all things around sex and relationships. In this episode, host Lucy Frank explores overcoming stigma and the unique challenges LGBTQ+ survivors of sexual assault face with fellow psychosexual therapist Lisa Etherson  and health psychologist and researcher Kyle McGovern. They discuss how fears of discrimination, the risk of being outed, and a shortage of culturally competent support create unique barriers that can make it even harder for survivors to come forward. Drawing on personal stories and research, Lisa and Kyle highlight the critical need for safe spaces where survivors feel heard and validated.How does shame play a pervasive role in the aftermath of sexual assault, particularly for LGBTQ+ individuals? Lisa and Kyle explore the complex layers of shame that survivors may experience, not only related to the assault itself but also stemming from societal stigma around sexuality and gender identity. They discuss how internalised homophobia or transphobia can compound feelings of isolation and self-blame, making it harder for survivors to seek help.What impact do societal myths and misconceptions have on the healing process for LGBTQ+ survivors of sexual assault? The episode examines how harmful stereotypes, such as the belief that sexual assault only happens in heterosexual contexts or that LGBTQ+ relationships are inherently less valid, can invalidate survivors’ experiences. Lucy, Lisa, and Kyle stress the importance of challenging these myths through education and open dialogue. They advocate for more inclusive sex education and public awareness campaigns that accurately represent the realities faced by LGBTQ+ individuals.Why is it crucial to develop trauma-informed, affirming support systems for LGBTQ+ survivors, and what does cultural change look like in this context? The three discuss best practices for creating safer spaces, including training service providers in LGBTQ+ cultural competency, offering peer support groups, and ensuring that resources are accessible and inclusive. They emphasise that systemic change requires not only policy shifts but also a transformation in societal attitudes - moving toward greater compassion, respect, and affirmation for all survivors.Recognising the specific challenges faced by LGBTQ+ survivors, including stigma, shame, and limited support, is essential for establishing secure and affirming healing environments. Lucy, Lisa, and Kyle are committed to fostering a culture where every survivor, irrespective of their sexual orientation or gender identity, feels acknowledged, listened to, and empowered in their healing process by openly addressing and dismantling shame.So, as you reflect on this conversation ask yourself: What can you do in your community, workplace, or personal life to support LGBTQ+ survivors and break the silence around sexual assault?Connect & Learn MoreLearn MoreExplore Lucy’s therapy services, retreats, workshops, and resources: https://theyxologist.co.ukStay SocialFollow for updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes perspectives:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theyxologist/ @theyxologist Get in TouchFor session bookings, media enquiries, and collaborations:Email: [email protected] Form: https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/Work With LucyLucy provides tailored psychosexual and relationship therapy, both online and in person, in Central, East, South West London, and Brighton. She also leads retreats and workshops on intimacy, desire, and navigating life changes like childlessness, infidelity, illness, and shifting relationship dynamics.Find out more and book via the contact page: https://theyxologist.co.uk/contact/