Coping with Loneliness and Rejection During Covid-19

We all know what it feels like to be alone, and without a shoulder to cry on. I don't have to explain it to you. If you're listening to this show, I know that you have been there before. Only a person who has been through a lot of pain could find humor in the things I say. It is, perhaps, what makes or breaks a person's strength, that being their ability to find pleasure in the most heartbreaking pain. Many of us, for whatever reason, have had to rethink many of the choices we made prior the the pandemic, including the relationships we choose to have with our friends and family members. Though it can sometimes be good for us to explore new relationships, most of us struggle to let go of the past, feeling as if there was one correct thing we could have done or said to make things work out for the better. But does this assumption have any truth to it, or are we just searching for another way to despair when there is no need. People change. They grow up. The mature in different ways. That doesn't always mean that they get to take their friends and loved ones with them. It can, of course, be even more devastating to be alone during a pandemic, where we are, supposedly, shut away from the world. I do agree that this can be extremely difficult, at first. I once longed for sleepless nights, and endless socializing. I was, in many ways, the life of the party. So, how did I end up giving all that up for a stable family life devoted much more to self improvement than the improvement of others? Simple, the party life is boring. Pointless relationships are boring. Endless socializing is boring. How many interesting conversations did you have before the pandemic? I mean, conversations that you were actually engaged in, not speaking to someone while scrolling through youtube videos you have no intention of watching. I bet, if you actually thought about it, the answer would be not very many. I understand what you're going through. I'm not mocking you. I am trying to get you to look on the bright side, not because I am a positive thinker, but because there is no point in feeling alone when you can enjoy the company of yourself. I have been soundly rejected by society. My friends all bailed on me when I needed them. I have made new friends now. Sure, it took awhile. I had to venture out into the world, and even try out social media before I started meeting people again. But it did happen. Regardless of how inadequate I felt, there were still new, interesting, caring people who were interested in what I had to say. So, there is light at the end of the tunnel, if you are willing to stick it out. But, in order to get there, let's try to remember that we are more than Americans; we are individuals. We should enjoy our own company for, if we do not, how can we expect others to enjoy it? So, I am telling you today to be glad when you are alone. Being alone gives you more time to remember what you were like when you were a child. It allows you to think only the thoughts that you would like to, whenever you like to. Being alone may be just what you need to write that novel, or color that picture or start that blog. Maybe you don't have "back to normal anxiety" or whatever google is saying this week to get people to serve them coffee again. Maybe you just want to be alone. Maybe you just want to get to know yourself a little better. That's not being selfish; that's called being self aware, and recognizing that you just might matter more than any slogan can encapsulate. So what if you've been rejected? Isn't that wonderful? Now you finally have the time you always wanted to enjoy what little time you have. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Loneliness is nothing to be afraid of as long as you remember that you are fun, brilliant, and unique without the approval of others. Come on, let's be alone together, on More Content Talk. Image Credit: Warren Wong/Sound Credit bensound.com--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/appSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/morecontentplease/support Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.