Couples on the Couch - Stop Keeping Score, Start Loving What Is

Do negative thoughts such as, “I’m so tired from a long day of work” or “I don’t have any free time balancing kids, work, and errands” creep into your mind daily? We often complain about our life. But hey - we did CHOOSE the life we are living. If you want to be happy, remember to focus on the positive. As humans, we love to create stories. I’m not talking about any sort of creative storytelling, I’m talking about the stories that we make up in our heads that make us feel bad about ourselves and the current state of our life. When we believe these stories, we are living in a victim mindset, holding ourselves back from happiness and gratitude.  Today, I am talking about how you can reframe your mindset to escape thinking like a victim and open your eyes to the blessings from the life you have chosen to live. I talk about a pivotal reframing moment I had with a couple I work with, why we tell ourselves stories that make us feel bad, and how to flip your thoughts to be more grateful. If you’re interested in watching instead of listening, you can check out the video here.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: A story about how couples “scorekeep” (3:30) How to reframe the story that we tell ourselves (9:28) Why we love to create stories through our experiences and interpretations (22:16) A profound reminder about rewriting our story (29:42) This week’s LoveByte (32:33) Q&A: How can I practice gratitude? Instead of thinking about how tired, overwhelmed, or stressed you are, reframe your mindset to identify the blessings in your life that you have CHOSEN.  How do I stop thinking with a victim mindset? Turn “I have to” into “I get to” and you will feel the difference!  Why do we believe the stories that we tell ourselves? Humans are story-making machines. We take our experiences and interpret them by building a story around our limited context and fear. Just as quickly as we can convince ourselves that certain negative thoughts are true, we can also rewrite the story to give ourselves grace, love, support, and clarity on what is true and what is not.  Resources mentioned: Become Passion Testimonials Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at [email protected] Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Become Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.