Couples Therapy, Emotional Responsibility, and Letting Go of Being Right

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia reflects on a few cultural moments that have been sitting with her this week, from the frustrating experience of trying to discover a new coffee shop in New York in the age of social media, to the nostalgia of pre-internet NYC portrayed in Love Story.She also shares recent pop culture highlights, including the stunning sci-fi film Project Hail Mary, the beloved new Game of Thrones series A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms, and the emotional lessons scattered throughout the latest season of Shrinking. Across all three stories, a common theme emerges: the importance of connection and the people who help us navigate life.That idea leads into the heart of the episode: couples therapy.Saskia shares why she and her partner Jeffrey decided to start couples therapy only one month into their relationship, and the lessons they continue to learn along the way. From nurturing a relationship like a seedling, to taking emotional responsibility during conflict, to the realization that no one actually “wins” by being right, she reflects on the practical tools they are still working to implement.She also shares a new ritual they’ve created together: a “relationship book,” where they write down the commitments they want to keep in their partnership.Because relationships, like people, are always a work in progress.